HEADLINE NEWS!

If it passes further testing, there might be a radical new way to boost the sex lives of men with erectile problems.

It involves the firing of shock waves into strategic points in the body to stimulate the growth of new blood vessels in the genital region. This is the same technology developed around 20 years ago to treat kidney stones.

The small trial of 20 men was carried out in January last year and tabulated results look good for the new pain-free therapy to be introduced in the clinical setting in the near future.

Apparently, 15 of the subjects (all were picked because they were using Viagra) could perform sexually without the use of the pills after the trail. Best part, there were no reported side-effects whatsoever.

It triggers the release of an important substance called Vascular Endothelial Growth Factor, or VEGF, which sends out a signal for new blood vessels to start growing.

ABOUT THE TRAIL:
Doctors at the Rambam Medical Centre in Haifa, Israel, recruited 20 men with an average age of 56 to take part in the trial.

All 20 were already on medication and had suffered mild to moderate erection problems for an average of three years.

During the three-week course of treatment, low-intensity shock-waves were repeatedly fired into five specific points in the genital area, using a handheld device.

Doctors then assessed the severity of the men's ailments on a 30-point scale called the International Index of Erectile Dysfunction, widely used to measure impotence problems.

The lower the score, the greater the problem.

Before the trial, the men averaged scores of between 12 and 20 points, which meant they had mild to moderate sexual dysfunction.

But after treatments, their scores increased by between five and 10 points.

Experts say anything in excess of five points is a significant improvement.

Although Viagra and similar medications, such as Cialis and Levitra, have transformed the treatment of impotence in the past ten years, around 30 per cent of men who take them see no improvement.

For these men, the only other options are to inject drugs straight into the penis, or use a pump that manually increases blood supply to the organ.

Dr Yoram Vardi, who led the trial, says: "Drugs are not a cure. When patients stop taking their medication, then they cannot function.

"With shock-waves, we can do something biological for the problem. These patients can then function without the need for medication."

Missus Singapore out!

GET BED SMART!

I was asked to take a look at this site; WannaWatchHow.com. It's essentially a site set up to educate younger adults learn the ways to great sex. I found it really a informative site and the videos I previewed were explicit but they needed to be.

Don't be alarmed when words like 'cock' and 'balls' are used but after all this is a sex education video so it's - I feel - quite appropriate. Call it as it is and it strikes the message home quickly.

There is nothing trashy about the video but again, let me stress that it's explicit with no holds barred. I suppose without the very professional narration, it might come off as a porn clip.

That said, I think I know many adults who would benefit from this site. It's a great refresher for all of them. And I like that they stress how one thing that works for one person may not work for another - That's the Missus Singapore way!

Check it out. It's subscription based membership though but I must say, definitely work the little money spent.

Missus Singapore out!

GOOD ADVICE

Here is a really great cartoon sent in by a great supporter of Missus Singapore and also a very capable FB on the side. Thanks YP!

Enjoy.

THICK BULGE

Don't we ladies just like 'em bulges? Well, here is definitely one more reason to love them. The BLUSH 6" BULGE from Edenfantasys.

Of all the sex toys I've played with, this one has to be the most surprising. Not the best feeling toy I've had but definitely up there with the best.

For the experienced ones among us, six inches does not seem like a daunting proposition. But did anyone ever think about girth? I do but not all the time.

You may have seen big dildos and even had them, 9", 10" and more. But this one though only 6", had a diameter(at the thickest point) of just over 2". Not that is impressive. It really fills you up and emphasises why length is not always better than girth. I certainly think so.

Soft, translucent and with a pink cast that almost glows, it is also very life-like with its veiny design. The Ultra Realistic 3.0 material (Anti-bacterial property / Latex free / Phthalates free) is not really something I can say that I've tried before but it was great. Smooth, flexible but not too floppy. So it slides in easily and quickly takes the shape of your insides.

I've tried it annaly too and although it fits rather well for me, I am not quite certain, a newbie might find this an appropriate toy. It does squeeze to size but still, it is thick! So a thinner anal toy would be a better idea.

Lube is what keeps this dildo sliding easily and it really has no preference because I tried it with three different types of lubricants without any compromise in performance.

Here is the MS VERDICT on the BLUSH 6" BULGE:

Delivery: 5 out of 5 (By far, one of the quickest to deliver)

Packaging: 3.5 out of 5 (Regular brown box but the plastic packaging could be a lot smaller, almost twice the length of the dildo)

Design: 4 out of 5 (Very sensual look about it)

Function: 3.5 out of 5 (Excellent for vaginal use; not for anal newbies)

Total MS Score: 16 out of 20 (GOOD)

Missus Singapore out!

VIDEO OF THE WEEK

This week's video features a really hilarious clip that will have you being more careful than you usually are. And I'm not talking safe sex. Have a super week ahead.

Missus Singapore out!

ADDICTED TO SEX?

For all of you wondering if you are sex addicts or not, here is a short self-assessment taken from the website of US help group Sex Addicts Anonymous. Clear the air once and for all. If you answered 'Yes' to more than one of these questions, you should seek help.

I'm happy to report that I've not answered a single 'Yes' to any question. Of course it doesn't mean that I am not highly sexed. There is a difference between both and you should have some idea after you run through the questions.

1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual behaviour or romantic fantasies from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

2. Have your desires driven you to have sex in places or with people you would not normally choose?

3. Do you need greater variety, increased frequency, or more extreme sexual activities to achieve the same level of excitement or relief?

4. Does your use of pornography occupy large amounts of time and/or jeopardise your significant relationships or employment?

5. Do your relationships become distorted with sexual preoccupation? Does each new relationship have the same destructive pattern which prompted you to leave the last one?

6. Do you frequently want to get away from a partner after having sex? Do you feel remorse, shame or guilt after a sexual encounter?

7. Have your sexual practices caused you legal problems? Could your sexual practices cause you legal problems?

8. Does your pursuit of sex or sexual fantasy conflict with your moral standards or interfere with your personal spiritual journey?

9. Do your sexual activities involve coercion, violence or the threat of disease?

10. Has your sexual behaviour or pursuit of sexual relationships ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others or suicidal?

11. Does your preoccupation with sexual fantasies cause problems in any area of your life ? even when you do not act out your fantasies?

12. Do you compulsively avoid sexual activity due to fear of sex or intimacy? Does your sexual avoidance consume you mentally?

CARING WIFE

Thanks James Bond for this joke. Sounds like the experience of a couple I know. Only difference was that there was no Christmas party and no drunk husband. Enjoy.

John, woke up after the annual office Christmas party with a pounding headache, cotton-mouthed and utterly unable to recall the events of the preceding evening. After a trip to the bathroom, he made his way downstairs, where his wife put some coffee in front of him.

"Louise," he moaned, "tell me what happened last night. Was it as bad as I think?"

"Even worse," she said, her voice oozing scorn. "You made a complete ass of yourself. You succeeded in antagonizing the entire board of directors and you insulted the president of the company, right to his face."

"He's an asshole," John said. "Piss on him."

"You did," came the reply. "And he fired you."

"Well, screw him!" said John.

"I did. You're back at work on Monday."

Missus Singapore out!

ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST

It's a good day today for a friend of mine. Finally, her divorced was finalised. She had been so paranoid that something might come up and screw things up. She had been married for 14 years to a sorry excuse for a guy who constantly abuses her mentally.

She had put up with him for the children's sake but I am not sure if that was the right thing to do. I'm really on the other side. If you make a clean break early, you will be so much better off and your children will be exposed to that, not your years of agony and depression. It does rub off on them too.

When it finally happens, it may steal the element of family security from them. Thankfully, her kids are older now but it doesn't make it any easier for them, does it? A divorce will hurt every family member. Sure, she is happier but she is still gutted by what her kids have to go through.

One of her revelations was shocking. The last time they had sex was just before she conceived her youngest child, some 11 years ago!!! After that, things went south, according to her. I met her husband several times and although he is a good looking chap, he is nasty as hell when he's had a little too much booze.

So yet another friend's marriage bites the dust. This is becoming too frequent for comfort. We should not be focusing so much on getting people to get hitched. What we really ought to be doing is helping people to stay married.

Missus Singapore out!

ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

"I've been passing out hand-jobs all day!"

This is an interesting email that came in a few days ago. It's from WestsideGiRL who writes: "I have been with my guy for around six years and although we enjoy good oral and penetrative sex, I have to admit that handjobs are not my forte. I did it a few times and he recoiled in pain. Since then, I've never done it but I do want to try it again. Any idea how to go about it?

MS: If you have been together for six years, I am assuming that you do communicate to each other quite a bit. So talk to him. Get him to show you. One of the best ways to learn is to watch him do it. Try mutual masturbation but with an eye out for what and how he does it. Watch how quickly he strokes it and how tightly he holds on to it. Some men don't like any contact with their penis heads because it can get really sensitive. Others have sensitive foreskins which can cause lots of discomfort when pulled down too far. Good luck!

Missus Singapore out!

WAITRESS TO BE SERVED

If you recall, some months ago, I met this waitress at this Italian joint. My girlfriends teased her and told her that I really had the hots for her. We were all just kidding around and I didn't expect them to actually say anything. But they did.

Long story short, we exchanged numbers. I called her once and she returned the favour but a horrendous stretch of deadlines and staff shortages kept us from meeting. I sort of left it and almost forgot about it when she called me up yesterday. She wanted to meet for drinks but darn, again, I was stuck with my deadlines.

However, I promised to meet her this week if all goes well. It would be a great way to end my hectic week. We did however chat for almost an hour. She is 31 (looks a lot younger), and get this, she has a two-year old! Of course when I told her I had two young adult children, I could hear her choke at the other end.

So as it turns out, she is not as young as she seems and is quite assured of her sexuality - which means all manner or exploration is on the cards. We teased each other a lot. So just some updates for all those emails I received asking about this hot waitress.

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is a mood booster sent in by Laila from the UK. In case you didn't know, she was the one who suggested I start a column to provide tips to my readers on how to get into the mood for sex.

True to her word, she has contributed several tips, the first of which I am posting today.

She writes: "I really don't have to go out of my way to get into the mood. Sometimes I find it is the little things that get me primed up. A little freshening up at the office before I head for home. And I don't let the traffic get to me. Instead, I sing, or do kegels to get me all warmed up. At times, I touch my arms or inner thighs while I am waiting for the traffic to clear up and it's just what I need to cool me down and get me warm at the same time, if you know what I mean. By the time I am home, I'm just about ready for dinner and a nice warm shower before I go for the kill."

MS: I never figured kegels would come in handy. But I know it works. However, too much kegels for me, will get my mind really on one thing and one thing only. Hard to focus on anything else.

Missus Singapore out!

VIDEO OF THE WEEK

Well, here is a novel way to get your tatas bigger. If it is to be believed, you can get someone to slap them up and over the course of the next few months, you can expect them to grow. If you think about it, it is really a matter of regularly swelling up the muscles and heating them up. If you persistently do it, there is every possibility that they will expand. But it is not permanent.

I belive to some extent what she is doing but not when she claims she is the only one to be able to do it. I read some years ago about thes cultures in South America, India and North Africa, where they do such things to young women to get that busomy effect to attract potential husbands. So nothing new here.

Nonetheless, worth a post for this week's video of the week. Have a great one and do pop in when you can to go through the new Missus Singapore site.

Missus Singapore out!

MISSUS SINGAPORE HAS A NEW LOOK!

Me with the guy who helped me revamp the site. You didn't think he worked for free did you? 

Finally, after a long time mulling over it, Missus Singapore has undergone a significant overhaul. The last time I did a revamp was considered minor - back in 2008 - when I merely changed the background.

This time, they are featured that hopefully will help visitors navigate a little easier. Time and again, I've received requests for a particular post which I myself would find hard to locate. So now, the links are exported to three other micro-sites for your convenience.

The three new micro-sites are Route 69 (sex tips and positions, etc.), Sex- Say (pronounced fast and it sounds like 'Sexy' with groovy accent, it has all your confessions, past polls and Ask Missus Singapore replies) and finally, Media Vault (a place where I store all the videos, jokes, funnies and sex news sent in by readers).

Don't worry, you can still easily link back to the main site.

While the layout is more of less done, please bear with me as I start to populate the micro-sites. It should be done in another week or so.

I have several new ideas as well but I will have to put them on hold until everything is up and running smoothly. Should you find any broken links, please let me know.

Do go through the sites and I'd love to hear your comments.

Missus Singapore out!

WIRELESS WISH

A friend of mine just bought a set of wireless speakers because she is strongly against anything to do with wires, which covers just about every electronic device.  Anyway, I was over at her place to return some CDs and she took the opportunity to proudly show off her new acquisition.

There were small and powerful but still, it didn't impress me, as I told her. What would really get me going, literally, is if someone designs a wireless remote vibrator. I know they have the kind where you turn on. Those are great but it would really be nice if we had something down south and did not have to fidget each time we needed to turn it on.

I could be wrong but is there already such a device in the market?

Missus Singapore out!

READERS' ENLIGHTENMENT

I posted the results of a poll – ‘Do You Enjoy Sex with the Lights On?’ yesterday and almost immediately, I received several emails from readers. I am posting two of them, one from a man and the other a woman. There was also a joke I received from Trident82b which you can find at the end of this post. The cartoon on top was send in by Jorge, a regular contributor.

Clark from Canada writes:
“I always seem to have girlfriends who will only have sex if the lights in my bedroom are switched off.

SEX WITH LIGHTS ON (POLL 38)

A total of 144 people responded to my poll 'Do You Enjoy Sex with the Lights On?' Thank you all.

It's good to know that I am in the majority of people who seem to enjoy doing it. Occasionally, it's good to keep the lights off, especially when you want to let your imagination run wild and have other senses experience the sexual highs. That is also important mind you. It's not only about sight, but about hearing, touch, smell and taste.

Anyway, here are the results.

With lights on: 69 (47.9%)
With lights off: 21 (14.6%)
Doesn't matter: 54 (37.5%)

Missus Singapore out!

A WOMAN'S BEST FRIEND

I've often wondered why a dog was only a man's best friend. If we train them right like Rex, they can be a woman's best friend too. Ever woman deserves one.

Not sure if I've posted this before but if I did, well, it still made me smile. Thanks Joyce, Hong Kong, for this cartoon.

Missus Singapore out!

BEYOND THE PHYSICAL

Sex is a wonderful act when both parties are up for it. However, sex itself, is the easy part. To engage in fulfilling sex, there are a lot of ingredients to take into consideration, but I feel, one of the most vital, is your state of mind.

Moodiness, annoyance and stress, can all significantly affect one's mindset, not just for sex but for a whole lot of activities. The real challenge is getting your mindset in order.

VIDEO OF THE WEEK

Here is this week's video which I am sure all you guys out there will appreciate. Just what the doctor ordered to get your engines working for the week. This was sent in by Adam, from Newark. But something tells me they aren't going to be singing at the church choir this Christmas.

Will someone please send me something like this for a female audience? While I do enjoy the female form more than I should (I'm told), I still want to see some male bulges!!

Have a great week and don't burst your nuts at work, do it in bed.

Missus Singapore out!

WE REMEMBER

I just thought that I'd take a day off from my regular blogging to observe a poignant date. Not really a topic that will drum up the sex juices but nonetheless, I think it gives us more reason to focus on the fun things in our very short and unpredictable life.

Anything and as some unfortunate 2,977 people have discovered, everything can be taken away in a wink. Sex is an important part of our lives for a period of time and we should bank on that to give us the enthusiasm for life. Of course family is equally important.

So live the life you want today. Have all the sex you can want today for you can never tell if that might be your last. Fuck like there is no tomorrow, as a guy friend once told me, and I have to admit, he really does.

Take a moment and say a prayer to the lost souls and before anything, remember that they were humans. Nothing else matters.

Missus Singapore out!

TASTY SEX TIPS

I've had a string of emails this week asking about how to give a sure-proof-across-the-board pleasurable blowjob. Well to answer that question, the answer is there is NO such thing!

What works for one man may not necessarily work for another as I have said over and again. It is all a matter of how observant you are in your very first few experiences with that man. That in my opinion is the fun part of the process.

Some like it fast and furious and some like it gentle - it all has to do with how sensitive or aroused he is. Since you have been asking alot, I have decided to compile all my previous posts about blowjobs and put it on a page. (Will get down to that as soon as I can.)

In the mean time, here is a tip especially for those who wrote in.

If you want to lick his dick like a lolli during foreplay, that's really fine I guess. However, if you're trying to get him to cum, it might be a little harder (unless he is extremely horny) because he needs a little friction going down there.

So try this. Form an 'O' with your lips over your teeth and move up and down but taking along his foreskin gently as you do it. If he is cut, then make sure there is ample contact with his shaft. Stimulate his head with the surface of your tongue as you come up.

Just don't get too stuck on sucking him. There is nothing worse for a man than if a woman is working too hard on him. Relax and try to enjoy it because it will arouse him a lot more if he sees that you are enjoying it too. Don't head-bob for hours hoping that he will come. Show him you enjoy it by 'oohing' 'mmm-ing'and 'ahhing' a little. Good luck, or should I say Good Suck!

Missus Singapore out!

SWEDISH SANDWICH

Here is one for the week, sent in by James Bond, one of my regular contributors.

At a local college dance, a guy from America asked the girl from Sweden to dance.

While they were dancing, he gives her a little squeeze, and says, "In America, we call this a hug".

She replies, "Yaah, in Sveden, we call it a hug too."

A little later, he gives her a peck on the cheek, and says, "In America, we call this a kiss".

She replies, "Yaah, in Sveden, we call it a kiss too."

Towards the end of the night, and a lot of drinks later, he takes her out on the campus lawn, and proceeds to have sex with her, and says, "In America, we call this a grass sandwich".

She says, "Yaaah in Sveden, we call it a grass sandwich too, but we usually put more meat in it."

Missus Singapore out!

WOMEN WATCH IT TOO!

A recent poll by a UK newspaper seems to corroborate my view based on my own polls that women enjoy watching porn almost as much as men do. Of course more still seem to enjoy reading compared to watching it.

Anyway, the two most popular movies women enjoy include Emmanuelle and 9 and a Half Weeks. So it's really soft porn when you compared what you guys watch out there but if you really want to crank to her sexual motors, go with something softer.

Some of the scenes include girl-on-girl, threesomes and scenes with lots of intimacy. Well, actually to be honest, even that seems hard-core in a place like Singapore where all sorts of porn is scorned upon. And the government here wonders why our birth rates are falling.

Imagine, all those supposed top minds and they can't figure out that one of the things that creates the moods for many women in our stressful society. Even Playboy, is banned, as if nudity is such a bad thing.

Missus Singapore out!

MS ADVISORY

It's been a while since I posted my anti-AIDS message. Here's one advertisement which really says it all.

Remember, while you are out to have yourself some fun, be smart about it.

Missus Singapore out!

HEADLINE NEWS

There was this recently circulated story of this New Mexican cop who was caught with his pants down - literally. The photo shows a uniformed cop having sex with a woman on the hood of a car. Her blouse is all the way up, frayed light-denim jeans dangle from her foot and she's arched her back in apparent ecstasy.

Although it was later ascertained that he did in fact not break any laws, he was subsequently punished for his poorly judged (and timed) actions.

Perhaps the loudest complaints seem to emanate from residents of New Mexico who seem outraged that their precious 'tax dollars' are being used for such off-duty indulgences.

I like to think that he was just doing his service to a lonely woman in need of some sexual gratification. If there is no crime to chase, why not do a service in other forms.

Expect to see on cop cars in New Mexico soon - 'To Serve & Penetrate'

Missus Singapore out!

VIDEO OF THE WEEK

Come on people. Time to get down this week and to start things off, here is a little video that might help you along.

This is especially to all those moralistic hypocrites who keep telling me what I should not be blogging about. If you eat and sleep, sex is just another human instinct. Why deprive yourself of it? Life is already short enough. Sex hard!

Missus Singapore out!

DIONNE DONE - PART 2

We adjourned to the bedroom - or rather I tagged closely behind them while my significant other led the way. I'm not quite sure how other women would react but I was totally turned on from the view I had - with her hand visibly grabbing on my man's ass.

I managed to grab the booze along the way and as we laid on the bed drinking, I could sense that Dionne had finally overcome her initial hesitation. Mind you, she and I have never, ever had any kind of intimate moments before. So it took me by surprise when she didn't seem to bother as my significant other (SO) started to undo her top. In fact, I think she actually help the bastard along the way.

I followed suit and purposefully overtook her when I slipped out of my last bastion of decency. When she turned her attention to me, I could see that she was itching to touch me but held back. As my SO got naked, I moved beside her and gently brushed the back of my fingers against her breasts. They grew erect before you could say 'Hey look, my SO is standing beside us with a boner!' I don't blame the fella because she really had a knock-out body.

To spare you the details, things progressed from stage to stage until Dionne finally got to realise her fantasy of being in a threesome with me and my SO. She was absolutely thrilled and definitely eager for out next encounter where she hopes we 'will not waste too much time with the formalities'.

Talk about an eager beaver.

But that said, I told her that the the build up is paramount to a totally mind-blowing all-round experience. Sure, the sex is great but the unreal like all forms of sex that I know, it's really the journey that is really the meaty part of the experience.

We talked a lot about lots of things sex and looks like she is one - I never expected in my wildest dreams - who has volunteered to be a willing participant or shall I say partner in future sexual adventures. Until then.

Missus Singapore out!

DIONNE DONE - PART 1

Some updates. Remember my old colleague I mentioned a little while ago? Dionne? Well, she finally got to live out her fantasy yesterday! At long last and according to her, it was everything she made it out to be and more.

Dinner, some drinks and back to my place for some serious catching up. Of course I could tell from the onset that although she had displayed such enthusiasm when she spoke about it (i.e. having a threesome), she was utterly nervous when it came down to the crunch.

A bottle of wine and some vodka later, she was a little more relaxed but I still not quite there yet. So I initiated things a little by getting my significant other to slow dance with me. After a while, I got her to come over to where we were to join in a threesome slow-dance. That seemed to do the trick.

I suppose it is quite hard for another woman to make a move on her friend's man especially when she is there too. So I had to make an effort to indirectly tell I am really okay with it. After a few songs had played, I decided to step back a little and move over to the couch. That did the trick. She was really much loosen up - and her hands had begun to have a exploratory mind of their own.

(to be continued...)

Missus Singapore out!

DILDO DECEPTION

There was this couple that had been married for 20 years. Every time they made love the husband always insisted on shutting off the lights.

Well, after 20 years the wife felt this was ridiculous. She figured she would break him out of this crazy habit. One night, while they were in the middle of a wild, screaming, romantic session, she turned on the lights. She looked down ... and saw her husband was holding a battery-operated dildo! She went completely ballistic.

"You impotent bastard," she screamed at him, "how could you be lying to me all of these years? You better explain yourself!"

The husband looked her straight in the eyes and said calmly: "I'll explain the toy... you explain the kids."

Missus Singapore out!

SEX ZONE FOR WOMEN

A friend of mine was asking how come they don't have special zones for men. You know red light districts but for men. Well, firstly, if they do, it would be a blue-light district. But the reason why they don't have it is because if you want a man, it's really easy to pick one up anywhere. You are never short of willing male partners.

But seriously, I do think we should have a special zone for us women to 'use' men. Revenge? Perhaps but more likely, equality.

Missus Singapore out!

NOTE: In case you are wondering, I've put my comments back up and like clockwork, the spam began once again. But special mention to several comments posted over the months that I deactivated my comments. They were apparently disagreeing with some of my views.  And then when I didn't put it up, they comment again to say that Missus Singapore chooses not to post them because they 'went against her views'.  Now, how childish and insecure some people can be who absolutely need to have their voices heard. I gather they are just jealous. Those who know MS well, know that like her or not, agree with her or not, she puts them up as it is, unless of course they are rude and vulgar.