INVEST WISELY

Sex toys have really come a long way since those toxic smelling ones, or those made of cheap rubber that peels off after several uses. It's amazing really, the kind of technology that goes into making today's toys.

I remember I had one of those rubber dildos many years ago. It was a gift from some girlfriends. After several uses, it just conked out on me because it wasn't water-proof. And when you gush like I did in those days, it's not surprising that it died on me. It was a sad day because back then, sex toy stores were prohibited here.

Thanks goodness for the numerous sex toy stores that we now have spread out around the island. I mean the real deal is always the best option but sometimes, you still need a little time by yourselves, if you get my drift.

Check out this week's video which highlights why you need to give it good thought before you buy any sex toy. Good as most of them are these days, you can still be caught with the cheap ones, especially those made in China.

Missus Singapore out!

THE 'YOUNGER' WOMAN

Thanks Eddie for this funny strip. Well I guess age is relative really.

But seriously, with the obsession for MILFS these days, we can only hope that it doesn't die down anytime soon.

I know for a fact that as the years catch up with me, I'll give the pubs a miss and you just might find me hanging around aged homes a lot more.

Missus Singapore out!

'C' IS FOR COOKIE!

This is a cookie that I'm sure the beloved Cookie Monster would do good not to gobble, less he end up a Cookie Monsteress. According to the sender of this photo, this is a product that promises to increase a woman's breast size up to an F Cup!

What is not shocking is that such a product exists. What is shocking however - judging by sales figures released - is that some women tend to dig this.

Why waste your time with such a fictional idea. We all know that rubbing coconut oil on your breast three times a day and doing the funky chicken on your coffee table is the ONLY non-surgical way to increase your breast size.

Missus Singapore Out!

PS: Thanks Li Jie, from Hong Kong, for the photo.

VEINY ISSUES

Men often question a woman's obsession with her body, especially when she is older and notices the changes. A 'tiny problem' as it seems to most men, the fact that we women are always watching over (and paying attention) to their bodies makes us more aware of this.

Several years ago, I had noticed the occurrence of very unsightly varicose veins along my thighs. I was conscious of them and noticed that they were getting worse as the years went by.

I've tried most creams and herbal extracts (possibly all there is in the market), but to no avail. However, the only major change in my lifestyle since those 'dark leg days' was that I began exercising a lot more. My significant other is a freak when it comes to exercising so naturally, he roped me into his routine.

Walking, jogging, cycling and swimming (fortnightly) and three years later, I've realised that it has played a big part in lessening the effect. They are still there but they are not as obvious. Even the greenish effect is significantly reduced.

I've since dug out my mini-skirts and am no longer conscious about wearing them as I was before. Another possibility for this (and I'm speculating here), is that I've had my legs elevated a lot more when I'm resting or in bed. Yes, more sex. So a good argument (or excuse) to have more sex.

Some tips:

• Avoid standing for prolonged periods of time
• Find out the right exercises to improve blood flow in your legs
• Don't cross your legs too much when sitting as it reduces circulation
• Consider compression sheers or elastic stockings
• Avoid saunas and hot tubs - they worsen the condition
• Occasionally use ice packs or cold compresses on your legs 

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

After taking a break, this column returns with more of your mood boosting tips. I've been pleasantly surprised by the number of emails that have come in from people all over wanting to share their mood boosting secrets.

This one is from Shannon Havelene from Oakland in the US. She is a 49-year old homemaker and mother of three boys, a dog and two lazy cats. She previously lectured at a university not far from her home but now concentrates much of her time of pursuing her PhD. (Now who says Missus Singapore doesn't attract the brilliant ones too!)

"For my husband and I, sex is a big part of our lives and something that has kept us together. He is a corporate lawyer and we both are terribly busy these days. Because of that, our moods for sex are often disrupted until we decided to follow a morning exercise ritual.

We used to exercise in the afternoons or evenings but often found ourselves pushing it because of our respective responsibilities. But exercise is something that has always kept us primed for sex. It has to do with blood circulation and hormonal production. So naturally, when we cut down on exercising, it affected our sex lives.

SO we decided to do it in the mornings. Initially, it was hard but once we got the hang of it, it was only a matter of waking up an hour earlier. But the rewards benefited us throughout the day. We find ourselves more alert during the day, and with more energy so much so that even after a hard day's work, we are eager for sex by night.

So morning exercise has not only given our metabolism a jump start but has also given us the energy for some wild nocturnal activities. I'm not sure it will work for everyone but it has for us."

MS: Well Shannon, I will definitely consider trying it out. One question, does sex in the morning count as a workout?

Missus Singapore out!

DON'T TRY THIS

Yes, you are basking in the affirmation of your manhood now that the missus has been knocked up. But if you ever want to have sex again, let alone take another breadth, here's a list of things you ought not even think of whispering when baby is in the oven.

10. I finished the Oreo's.
9. I sure hope your thighs are not going to stay that flabby forever.
8. I'm jealous. Why can't men experience the joy of childbirth?
7. Are your ankles supposed to look like that?
6. You're awfully puffy looking today.
5. Got milk?
4. Maybe we should name the baby after my secretary Sheila.
3. You think they can induce labour. June is World Cup month.
2. Man! That rose tattoo on your hip is the size of Madagascar!
1. You don't have the guts to pull that trigger.

So while congratulations are almost upon you, stay safe and stay alive.

Missus Singapore out!

A MATTER OF PRIORITY

Divorces are on the rise over here and from what I read, it's not just a Singapore thing. Usually its cited as irreconcilable differences which could be taken to mean any of 1,000 reasons. But a conversation I had with two marriage counselors recently seemed to have the reasons narrowed down to two main issues - money and sex.

Usually, many other issues are brought up for mention but in more cases than not, these are just fall-outs from a collapsed bridge of communication and intimacy.

I will save what I gathered from these experts for an article I am working on but essentially, both seemed to echo that the problems many married couples face have to do with mistrust, suspicion, and lack of sharing between both parties.

For the purpose of sticking to this blog's theme, I'd like to lean towards the breakdown in sexual intimacy. In a society where sex ranks very low in terms of priority, thanks to our hectic work and family commitments, it's not surprising with the predicament many couples find themselves in after a few years.


In our context, as open an Asian society you will ever find, we are still viewing sex no more than an exercise for procreation. Yes, it does that and it's vital in our fast ageing population but few ever stop to think about how sexual intimacy can make or break a marriage. No, it's not the only thing important in a marriage but it sure is hell is an important adhesive to the relationship.

If you subscribe to the idea that a family is centred around the strong core of the parents' relationship, then ignoring and failing to look after it is a big folly. Let's not mince words here. In Singapore it's all about making babies, intimacy, loving relationship...but in truth, it's really all about sex. We often are too quick to underestimate how it works in the background to fuel the closeness between two people.

I am not proposing that we just focus on sex alone in a marriage but it should be an active part of the union and it should be spoken about in every way - with seriousness, humour, fondness and even lust. A couple who is open with each other will find it easier to communicate about a host of other things - be it about money, bringing up the children, in-laws, etc.

When you are younger and have sexual energy to burn, it's counter-productive when you keep it in. When you are older, sex inevitably takes on a slightly lesser priority but if you have navigated through the deep waters early, you will definitely find it a lot easier to live with each other. It's like the growing and impressionable days of a marriage - you have to nurture it or face a strong possibility that it will fail in due course.

Missus Singapore out!

101 REASONS TO...

Thanks James for this strip. I remember seeing it somewhere before but it's worth the post.

James is a reader since the early days and although I met him several times before, he has since moved back to his hometown in Chicago. And he reports that he is now the proud father of his first child! Congratulations but I do hope what is portrayed in the cartoon is not a part of your present marriage.

Missus Singapore out!

GOOD GRIEF ABOUT G

For some reason, I received more than my usual number of emails about my recent posts about the G-spot. Some were, well shocked. Others resistant to the idea and yet a few insisted that they knew where their woman's G-spot sat.

Well, folks, it's just what I'm reporting so don't shoot the messenger. What I would appreciate though if that if you comments are about a particular post, it would be better to use the comments facility of the site.

It's hard to keep up with all your emails this way.

Anyway, if you think you've found the elixir of pleasure for your woman, than great. What I did say though is that there is no one exact anatomical spot in a woman's body that is associated with it. Hell, I know one woman who gets her big-O from nipple nibbling and nothing else.

The fun part though, and I must stress, is your journey finding it. It's like heading towards pleasure but having a darn great time along the way. Don't get to caught up with it, just enjoy the flow.

Missus Singapore out!

TATTOO GALS (POLL 29)

Too many?

Well the verdict is out. Apparently, girls with tattoos are the more preferred lot. So it's great that I have one to show off, albeit a very tiny one. The thing is, I'm a coward for pain and just that tiny one took a few bottles of beer to calm my nerves down.

Like several readers wrote in to say, they do prefer girls with tattoos provided they do not overdo it and is tastefully and strategically done. So my next question is what (or where) is it considered as such.

Just right?

The Poll: Do You Like Women With Tattoos?

Definitely yes! - 74 (72.5%)
No way! - 28 (27.5%)

Total number of votes:  102

Thank you to all of those who continue to support my polls. I really appreciate taking the time to do so.

Missus Singapore out!

BACKSEAT BORE

This guy Roy has been forever talking about having backseat sex. It's his fantasy apparently. Well, I do know some girls who dig it but unfortunately, I'm not one of them.

Twenty years ago perhaps but I'd like to think that I've graduated from that. Not that I don't enjoy the adventure but it just doesn't allow me to fully extend myself for maximum pleasure, if you know what I mean.

Of course some mean will argue that they have the skills to pull it off. Maybe but it's more like a competition for them, to see how many times he gets laid in his car. One woman I know who can pull it off, whether she likes it or not, is Helen. She is a dance instructor but had a very notable youth as a state gymnast.

Her stories and her demonstrations of how care sex can be enjoyed are very awesome. If you had been there watching her show some of us the moves, you might consider it hilarious.

I suppose at the end of the day, it's a matter of choice and Roy, you ain't skillful enough to pull it off and neither do you have a big or nice enough car which would compel me to strip and spread in your backseat.

Missus Singapore out!

G-SHOCK!

Well if is a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine is verified, this whole idea of the G-spot has just been one big myth.

In this particular study, 1,8000 women apparently were observed during a series of tests and no conclusive evidence pointed to the existence of this mythical spot that supposedly lies in the upper front wall (2.5-5cm in).

Of course you would expect all those self-proclaimed women pleasers and sex therapist to come out and argue otherwise. Interesting debates lie ahead.

As for me, I never bought it from my personal experiences and countless discussions with women and girlfriends. Some swore by it, others remain clueless. However, what I can tell you is that most of them admit there are some spots in and around the said region that sends them up to the clouds.

For me, it's more on the outside. A woman I know claims it lies on the lower wall. So it varies all over the place. I feel that every woman has that O-spot - one that can get them off with proper stimulation.

The key word here is 'proper' because even if you find the spot, how you work on it is going to make a big difference.

Missus Singapore out!

TITTUS GIGANTUS

Annie Hawkins, from Atlanta, Georgia in the US is a Guinness World Record Holder for having the world;s biggest natural breasts.

With a measurement of 70-48-52, she also owns the biggest known bra at 48V. Each breast weighs 28 pounds. And dig this! Since these measurements were taken in 1999, her breasts have grown - they are now 72ZZZ. But of course, she has also ballooned from 270 pounds to 345 pounds.

Her bra size was 48V. Each tit weighed 28 pounds and she weighed 270. Since then her tits have grown up to 72ZZZ and she tops the scale at 345 pounds.

Holding a Bachelor of Social Work from Jackson State University, Hawkins has appeared in several magazines and had her very own movie, with her breasts as the subject of attention, obviously.

MS: Well for all the guys who are obsessed with boobs, here's a chance to go knock yourself out if her tits don't knock you out first.

Missus Singapore out!

WEIRD ARRIVALS

I've not posted any weird arrivals to MS since a few weeks back simply because there has not been anything out of the ordinary. However, this week, there was one worth including in this section.

As you know I take them as they come, meaning no editing. This one is pretty weird I must say.

"Sucking on the missus tits while on a crowded bus"

If you key in sex, missus singapore, blows, etc. I would definitely understand how someone arrived at my blog but this? What was this person even thinking of? Why would he (presumably) want to find something like that? What more on a crowded bus? I've made out in an empty bus, messed around in an almost empty bus other than the bus driver trying hard to focus on the road ahead but never on a crowded bus.

That said, here is a video of a young Austrian couple making out on one of Austria's U-Bahn trains. Well, actually, as you can see, it's a little more than just making out on public transport. There is also lots of cheering! Talk about an open society!

Missus Singapore out!

OCTOMOM SOLUTION FOR SINGAPORE

Judging by the recent release of fertility figures, Singaporeans are heading for extinction! Drastic measures call for drastic solutions and we may have to seriously consider going the way of the infamous Octomom, who has 14 children in all.

Forget about the welfare of the children, just get the numbers up and worry about the consequences later. Throw the Singapore book of caution out the window and let's get the women laid and knocked up!

She may have her critics but what can be done now? We can all feel regret and pity for her kids but who are we to judge or decide how many children she can have. We are all gatekeepers to our own life's journey and if she wants to take that road, it's hers to deal with at some point later. To any degree, I don't agree with what she has done, just to put the record straight.

Anyway, check out this week's video about her.

Missus Singapore out!

GETTING TARTY

For only two times in a year - Chinese New Year and Christmas - I will take a break from work to make tarts for the family and friends. It's the traditional pineapple tarts which my grandmother and mother 'insist' that I learn to master.

I wouldn't say that I am a master at it but thus far, many comments have been favourable. In fact, since last year, I have been getting orders by friends and their friends. I've approached several of my 'special' friends and so far the response has been extremely supportive. They are such darlings and you can be assured that they will be rewarded in kind for their support.

If any of you want to make any orders, do so quickly but there are two conditions. Firstly, and obviously, you ought to be in Singapore and you will have to make plans to pick them up yourselves. To Silas especially, with his order of 300 tarts for his family and office colleagues, I will arrange a 'special' night for you to comke pick them up! LOL!

Missus Singapore out!

BEDROOM BLOOPERS

Walton from Seattle wrote in asking me about the funniest moment I have ever experienced in bed. Well, there have been many to be honest but I suppose the funniest has to be when it wasn't really funny at the time.

It was in 2002 when we regularly met with this guy. I use to call him the 'fly-boy' because he was then a steward with Singapore Airlines.

Anyway, while we were in the midst of a threesome, my bed suddenly gave way. I was lying with my head at the edge of the bed with my significant other 'feeding me' while fly-boy was doing his best impersonation of 'bang the squirrel' when kaboom, the frame of the bed at our side just split.

On falling to the ground, it slammed on my significant other's knee which had him grimacing in pain. At that point it wasn't really funny but now that we look back, it was hilarious. Fly-boy and I still joke about it till this day.

Imagine, 3am and there were these three adults dismantling and trying to dispose of a broken bed. To make matters worse, even after the bed collapsed, instead of rushing instantly to help my SO, fly-boy took in into himself to make sure he came. So there was some moaning and grunting from him before he got off me for us both to help my injured SO.

Since that day, I've never had a bed. A lone mattress on the floor will do very nicely for us thank you.

Missus Singapore out!

PS: If you want to share your funny bedroom moments, please feel free to do so with the email heading 'Bedroom Bloopers'.

TONGUE SAFETY

Here is a funny strip sent in my Jeannie from Singapore. And yes, I remember you from Balaclava. How could I ever forget you!

There were a few guys I knew who had extremely long tongues however and it's really a different sensation but I only wish they knew how to make better use of it.

While it's obvious where the guy in the cartoon is gonna place it, it is however not obvious to them. Try stopping yourself from laughing when they probe the insides of your ears!!

Missus Singapore out!

BYE ALLY

Alison (not her real name) is a very pretty American woman I men some years ago at a supermarket. Yeah, with how Singapore's culture has evolved in recent years, it's not surprising to find Russians, Arabs, British, China-borns and many from South Asia, among others, making the numbers at neighbourhood malls.

In fact, I did blog about her and our get-togethers sometime back. If you recall, she was the subject of Ally Hoe.  So anyway, after about five years of a very exciting relationship with her, she recently announced that she will be heading back to her hometown in California. Yup, she was the one who shared with me her home-made movies back then. Since then, we have made several productions of our own.

I will definitely miss her and although she will only be leaving in May, I am already missing the woman. Outside our intimate sessions, she has grown part of the family. Kids love her too. I'm going out a limb here to say that my significant other will be missing her lots too. Oh, the things we got up to! I'll certainly have a a hard time finding a replacement for you.

According to her, Singapore has been a wonderful learning experience for her. All I can hope for is that I had something to do with her 'Asian education'. Ally was definitely a fun person to spend time with and she cemented my notion that the moment you stop bothering what others think of you and live according to your book, happiness and fulfillment will follow.

I'll miss you Ally but I'm quite sure in time, my sadness will develop into a celebration of our special friendship.

Missus Singapore out!

OUT WITH IT!

Markus is a 28-year old admin manager in a MNC in Jakarta. Educated in the US, he is single but lives with his very conservative parents, one of the reasons why when he is out, he takes his adventure to a different level.

"I met an executive from our principle affiliate companies from Norway. She was blonde, not very tall but had a great body. She was also married from what I heard. When she came to our office, she was very stern and professional so I was rather taken aback when she asked me out for dinner on the last day he was here.

We went to a disco after dinner and had a really fun time. I never imagined she could be so outgoing by the way she was when I met her. Anyway, after the disco, I brought her to a 24-hour stall to have supper. She later invited me to her hotel room for drinks and I knew she wanted to have sex with me.

Sometime after we were in her room, she excused herself to the bathroom and returned a few minutes dressed in a nice lingerie. But it was the whip that caught my attention. She was really into whipping and of course, I didn't mind it either even though it was my first time.

We had wild sex and she made me sleep with her that night. It was the wildest and kinkiest sex I have ever had. It was especially hot when she started to rub herself after she ask me to whip her. She said later that she likes to do this but her husband is not keen. I couldn't care less. I hope to meet up with her again when she comes back in July 2011."

MS: Well, Marcus, just wanted to know if you were up to your mark workwise. It could be part of the company's policy to whip its employees when they do not perform to expectations.

Missus Singapore out!

WHAT'S WRONG WITH MY JEANS?

Many guys don't seem to understand why women freak out the moment they can't fit into an old pair of jeans. To understand it, you have to think that it's very much like you've lost control of your body.

For a woman, keeping things in control with regards to her figure, is paramount. It's not so bad if the pair of jeans gets a little lose. In fact, that is great and besides, it gives us more reasons to shop for a new one.

It's like a validation of a woman's femininity when she continues to fit into the clothes that she bought years ago. I'm bringing this up because just today, I was sorting out my clothes and trying on some items. Out came this pair of jeans which I used to wear a lot earlier this year. I bought it in December 2009.

After failing to slip it over my butt, I pulled it off, trying hard to unravel what had happened to it. All sorts of reasons started to float about - shrunk from weather, got switched with someone's pair etc., until my significant other decided - against his best interest - to suggest that I had put on some weight in certain places.

So I did eventually have to agree with him but not after he sufferred severely for his directness. Okay I know it's pretty obvious and we will eventually get to it but we will definitely exhaust all possibilities before we look at our bodies.

But then I figured, if anything, women known for our fickleness, we actually need someone to be honest with us from time to time. Not too often mind you but it helps when things are put in perspective for us.

So another goal for 2011 is to work my body so that I can once again fit into this pair of jeans. Otherwise, I may just have to conveniently 'lose' it somewhere.

Missus Singapore out!

BOUNCING BOOBIES

Thanks Jeff for your contribution for this week's video of the week. I gather you are in the group who are pushing for such a sport to be introduced.

This brings me back to the days when I knew this girl, Tess, who had a heavy top. She was always wearing low cut blouses and in those days when the roads were bumby, a bus ride with her could be classified for many men to be onboard entertainment.

Missus Singapore out!

LOOK! NO STRINGS!

So apparently, there is now the C-string for women. It's a strapless thong that claims to be so flexible and versatile that it hugs and holds it to the body. I've not tried it but it is supposed to be secure and comfortable to wear.

Like a G-string, I like how it looks from the front but seriously, I would not be caught prancing around in front of anyone like I would if I were in a G-string. I dislike how it appears from the rear. But I suppose it is designed to be part of your attire.

However, I'm not sure how comfortable my butt would be sitting down. The strip concept would make me feel like wearing a diaper for some reason. But that is just me. Perhaps once you overcome the mental battle that it won't just drop off, it might proof a nifty addition to a woman's lingerie collection.

What I will say however, is that without anything on the sides, I do expect to feel more comfortable. Besides, any prospect of eliminating those pesky panty lines is great.

For the fleshier women, I think they would appreciate that the potential buldges would no longer be obvious.

Maybe I'll try it out and see how it goes.

Missus Singapore out!

TOY GRADING

Sally met Harry at a nightclub. They hit it off, so she invited him back to her place. When they arrived at her house, they went right for the bedroom.

Harry noticed hundreds of stuffed animals scattered throughout the room. Giant stuffed animals sat on top of the wardrobe. Slightly smaller stuffed animals sat on the window sill. Many tiny stuffed animals sat on the bottom shelf of her bookcase.

After they had sex, Harry turned to Sally and said, "So ... how was I?" "Well," Sally said, "you can take anything from the bottom shelf."

MS: Thanks Vinny for this and the four pages of jokes you sent in. A great belated Christmas present I must say!

Missus Singapore out!

PROGRESS I PRESUME

With regards to my 2010 resolutions that I posted around the same time last year, I have to report that to some extent, I actually succeeded.

Let's look back at some of them.

To cut down on late nights out - From 46 nights in 2009 to 27 nights - ACHIEVED!

To cut down on alcohol consumption - ACHIEVED! (Only was pissed drunk twice this year compared to uncountable times in 2009)

To have more sex - ACHIEVED! (Gone back up to 2007 figures i.e. over 100 times per year)

Learn new tricks/positions in bed - ACHIEVED! (I picked up six new positions but also got a lower back strain for my efforts!)

Meet more of my readers - FAILED! (Only met 19 of you - my target was 30)

Exercise more - FAILED! (Although I did more walking and cycling in 2010, overall, I did not reach my target.)

Cut down on shopping - ACHIEVED! (I spend a truck load less of money on pounding the shopping aisles)

THROUGH THE DICKSCOPE

Thanks Harry from Singapore for this cartoon in response to my post yesterday of the dick poll results. I have to say besides giving me a big chuckle, it also had me thinking about the fat guys I had been with before.

I know its commonplace to hear that if a guy wants to appear bigger, he should lose weight as one of the first steps. In most ways, I agree but I've met some overweight men, with enourmous and muscular dicks too. It sounds like an oxymoron really but I certainly have see it with my own eyes.

This guys I met many years ago was then a young man - lean and mean. But seven or eight years later, after he got married, he showed up looking three times the size as he was before. But thankfully, he still had his manhood intact to my delight.

Having said that, it is true with most men, the more weight you lose from your belly, the bigger it appears. Size is another thing but it's all about proportions and visual senses isn't it. However, if I really met a man who had to use a periscope to find out what his tool is up to, I'd rather have a root-canal done, thank you very much!

Missus Singapore out!

HUNG OR NOT? (POLL 28)

Here are the poll results that were carried out on Missus Singapore sometime back about dick lengths. I apologise for taking an extended time to report on it but I had to wait for the results of another similar poll that I had put up in a magazine.

So finally, after collating them all, here are the results.

A total of 231 votes were received. It does however swing towards a representation of the Asian male.

How long are you or your partner?
3-5 inches - 105 (45%)
5-7 inches - 78 (34%)
7-9 inches - 39 (17%)
Over 9 inches - 9 (4%)

A similar poll done in 2007 closely mirrored this trend.

As for what the women want, another poll was carried out simultaneously. It asked the them what was their ideal length. Here were the replies of some 156 women.

3-5 inches - 6 (4%)
5-7 inches - 33 (21%)
7-9 inches - 24 (15.4%)
Over 9 inches - 24 (15.4%)
Size doesn't matter - 69 (44.2%)

So apparently size doesn't matter for the majority of you. I can almost see the men smiling at the new-found prospects. In truth, since most women are highly sensitive in the outer third region of their privates, you really don't need a 12-incher to gain satisfaction but you have to admit, the novelty of it all is just too hard to ignore, once in a while at least.

Missus Singapore out!

100,000 VISITORS!

I actually didn't even realise it until a reader wrote it to ask how I go about promoting my blog since I was almost at 100,000 visitors. The truth it I do very little to actively promote it since I just started out as a way of putting down my thoughts.

It just happened over the course of the past four years or so. The number of visits is over 250,000 but the 100,000 figure is just the unique ones who have visited the site as of 4 January 2011.

I guess it is only fitting that I come out and thank all of you who have been following me. Your comments and the materials I keep receiving is amazing as it is a motivation for me. Which is why personally, for the lat year, it has been a really joy (and challenge) keeping up to my post-a-day routine. But I did it!

Please keep your comments and cartoons, jokes, stories, confessions, etc coming. I hope to meet more of you in person over the coming 12 months.

Missus Singapore out!

END OF AN ERA

Many of you probably know that I used to actively organise hen and stag parties a while back. I toned it down considerably in 2010. Other than the ac-hoc thingy, I focused more on my other endeavours. During the Christmas season however, I was persuaded by a few people to organise a few.

It was okay I guess but my feeling that I was jaded proved right by the second of three parties. All were hen parties by the way. There were a few male strippers in the second one. I got to know them and found out they were from Indonesia. Nice chaps with nice bodies and equally delicious buldges.

Even so, I did not really find myself as excited about the whole deal as I used to be before. It's hard to explain. When your work falls around the sensual aspects of human nature, it might work to dissolve whatever excitement and wonder you initially feel. You really have to be careful not to wear yourself out.

Don't get me wrong, I still love sex and enjoy it thoroughlly. It's what keeps me alive but I suppose it's very much like watching porn. Too much and it just does not seem as exciting anymore. Perhaps a better example is when you wake up in the morning one day and find that you have to dragy yourself to work. For me when that happens, it's really time to look for greener grass.

What was intriguing though, was that one of the guys had really unreal nuts. At first it looked like he had a cup on or something but on closer examination (really close: go figure!) it was clear they were freakishly low-hung and big! However, although he was pretty well hung, by comparison, his tool didn't look big at all.

Lesson: Don't judge a dick by the nuts! I would personally have preferred if they were proportional. It's just so sexy when a guy is built proportionally. It's the same with guys wanting a well proportioned woman.

So the bottom line is that I am totally moving away from this. Seven years of watching men and women bang strangers like crazy before they get hitched has taken its effect on me. I thought I would eventually go back to it but this Christmas, I turned the final page on that chapter of my life. New challenges beckon for Missus Singapore in 2011. Any ideas?

Missus Singapore out!

MS ADVISORY

It's a new year and before we get things started for 2011, I'd just like to take a little time out to highlight the importance of being safe while you're having sex.

In the course of doing some research for a book, I had the opportunity to speak with two people, a man and a woman who are both HIV+. The former contracted it through needle-sharing while the woman had it with a man she had sex with. He was only the second man she had ever had sex with. She was married for six years but got a divorce in 2006.

This other man was an expatriate who frequented Bangkok and Hanoi during that time. He was dignosed with HIV in 2008 and six months later, she too suffered the same fate.

Just remember that a moment's fun could end you in a lifetime of misery. There is really no reason why fun cannot still be had but there is such a thing as smart fun.

Missus Singapore out!

HEALTH FIRST

One of the things that I have been increasingly aware off over the course of 2010 is how few women really take care of their health. I had over 10 articles published this year on women's health issues and whilst doing the research for them, I've come to realise the extent of this.

While many are aware of the latest foundations or lotions (and are willing to spend a bomb on them) only a handful understand women's  health issues. It's all about fun for them and suffer later. I love to have my fair does of fun too but that does not mean that I ignore what needs to be looked after. Even before I wrote anything like this, I already knew what I had to look out for. It wasn't just for me but for my family's sake as well.

I just feel that ignorance is showing how little you care for your loved ones. So, one of the things that I will also try to focus more on this year will be on fitness and health issues for women mostly. Don't worry, sex will still be my primary focus.

The path to great sex is not just a mental thing. You have to have the right functioning tools that work at optimum levels.

Missus Singapore out!