MOOD BOOSTERS

Siew Hwa, 44, from Singapore writes in with her suggestion on how she gets into the mood for sex.

"I'm not sure if this only works for me but I realised that each time my husband and I go out to a quiet place for a walk or just to sit down like at the beach, we tend to get really in to the mood for sex. It has to be quiet, just us two and our moods to get intimate rise. We have three kids and my mother-in-law lives with us so it tends to be rare for us to sit down on the couch and enjoy a quiet time at home.

It is not that we don't have sex at other times but each time we come back from such an outing, we are really into each other. The best sex we have had has definitely come after we had gone out on a quiet 'date' like that. In fact, even before we reach home, our hands are all over each other."

MS: I fully agree. With the hectic lifestyles many of us live, quiet time together is really a luxury. It is as if all our senses return to the raw and we revisit with our raw instincts too. Keep up those quiet moments. All I can say is it would be best if the two of you avoid visiting the library together.

Missus Singapore out!

TILL DEATH DO US PART

A man returns from the doctor and tells his wife that the doctor has told him he has only 24 hours to live. Given this prognosis, the man asks his wife for sex. Naturally, she agrees, and they make love.

About six hours later, the husband goes to his wife and says, "Honey, you know I now have only 18 hours to live. Could we please do it one more time?"

Of course, the wife agrees, and they do it again.

Later, as the man gets into bed, he looks at his watch and realizes that he now has only 8 hours left. He touches his wife shoulder, and asks, "Honey, please... just one more time before I die."

She says, "Of course, Dear," and they make love for the third time.

After this session, the wife rolls over and falls asleep. The man, however, worried about his impending death, tosses and turns, until he's down to 4 more hours. He taps his wife, who rouses. "Honey, I have only 4 more hours. Do you think we could have sex again?"

At this point the wife sits up and says, "Listen, I have to get up in the morning. You don't!"

MS: Thank you Alan Wieslan from New Zealand. I hope your wife is not ignoring you and is treating you better these days.

THE WEEK'S WEIRD ARRIVAL

I've decided to take some of the most curious word searches that got some of my readers here. This one takes the cake for this week.

"SINGAPORE PORN GIRLS WHO ARE NAKED"

There are certainly a handful of Singaporean girls who have exported their talent to the US and Europe so not so much a revelation. But naked? Have you not have to get naked to do porn most of the time? I like to see porn where there are no naked bodies. Clothed-porn anyone? Now there's an idea!

There are probably girls performing porn with their clothes on at some point but the crux of the idea inevitably has to involved some removal of clothes doesn't it. But the important question here is how on earth did such a search send a reader this way? So much for how Google tags blogs.

Missus Singapore out!

FAST CAR OR WOMAN?

Well, the Video for this week shows you how some guys are so obsessed with their cars. Besides sports, beer and Victoria Secret's models, I think fast cars are up there in the list of things us ladies have to compete with.

I once knew this guy who was so obsessed with how clean he kept his car that he was checking my shoes even before I got into it. Well, as you might expect, I never saw him again. The funny part is he is how he recently connected with me on Facebook and has been trying to get me to have dinner with him, for old times sake - he calls it. Hah. And he wonders why he is still single and even trying his luck with a married woman. 

Enjoy and have a great week.

Missus Singapore out!

CHEATING PARTNERS (POLL 25)

Here is the other part of the cheating poll. Based on three other online polls that I've done over the past three years, this one shows that cheating has dropped somewhat. Good to know. Although there are a myriad of reasons behind why people cheat, one thing remains clear: that is exists across all races, religions and cultures. It's almost as if its human nature.

Wait a minute - the last I checked mankind wasn't designed with monogamy in mind. So staying in a relationship is really a big challenge and my hat goes out to all of you who have managed to cull temptation. But for those of you who are in an open relationship, more kudos to you guys.

The top reason for cheating - Sex Wasn't Enough or Good. Sex Sex Sex! Will people just come to realise that it's a big part of a relationship? Not everything but a big part! Can we all just agree on this and just get laid?

Missus Singapore out!

ARE YOU AN INFIDEL? (POLL 24)

I'm as guilty as the 14% of women who have cheated on their partners. This was a long time ago before I was married and seeing someone else. It was a mix of curiosity and my flirtatious nature that got me cheating on my then-boyfriend with not one, but two of his friends.

Typical of my youthful ignorance at the time, I didn't so much as blink an eye after doing it. But we live and learn. Or do we?

So here are the results of the recent poll on who you think cheats more these days, men or women. While men win it hands down, there is really a noticeable trend that us women are catching up. Thanks for all 70 of you who voted.

Missus Singapore out!

INTIMATE SHAPES

I was sent this sometime back. It's an outline sticker to shape a woman's pubic region into either a star, heart or X.

Pretty neat I thought at first but it's not exactly easy to use, depending on the texture of your pubic hair. You will have to first let your hair grow out to about a 3/4 centimetre before you use it. Stick it on to where you want to shape. That's the easy part.

For me, my hair strands are pretty thick so that was a problem. I think if you have thin hair strands you might have an easier time. But seriously, it's best if you have someone to shape it for you since even with a mirror as your guide, it is quite a cumbersome task. I'd rather just shape it as I always have, a slim vertical strip.

In any case, should you want to know more about this, email me.

Missus Singapore out!

TATTOOS AND ME

I love tattoos but not those that go overboard. It's like when it compliments the aesthetics of the body, that's fine. I'm not a fan when it starts to cover the whole body and completely destroys the natural beauty of the body.

I know that in modeling, they squirm at tattoos on the body or limbs. More than several times, I've had a job canned because of the tiny one I had just above my left breast. Sometimes, they actually paid to have it concealed up a professional make-up artist.

Of course the other reason why I only have a tiny one is because my tolerance to pain is ridiculously minimal. I'm just a coward when it comes to that. Thanks to my significant other, I've sky-dived, bungee-jumped and done all sorts of adrenalin-pumping things but when it comes to needles, I'm out of there as fast as you can say 'needle prick'. So for now at least, all I can do is appreciate the wonderful tattoos on some women.

Missus Singapore out!

BABY-FRIENDLY BEER

Thank you Jamie for this ad. Why didn't they have such beer when I was expecting? But to be honest, beer never appealed to me when I was younger. I'd rather go for the alcoholic cocktails - the dainty stuff. At most it was a light beer for me. Nowadays, I find myself drinking more beer and trying out all the little unknown brands.

Of course it helps that the significant other is a hobbyist beer historian of sorts. I always liked the rugged sort but I just had to have one extreme of it - sports and beer lover is one thing but to be obsessed with it, that's a new ball game! See what I mean, it's even entering my mind.

Missus Singapore out!

ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

Q: Do women enjoy the man-from behind position?

MS: Personally, I love it but only if the man does it right and not tries to bang you off the bed! The problem is not so much with the position but with how most men hold the woman when they do it. Most push down on the butt which makes it hard for the woman to keep on her fours. Others squeeze the waist too tight which can either be downright painful or ticklish.

All you really need to do is gently hold on to her waist, just below her pelvic bone – and support her gently. Just keep it simple, increase the rhythm on her cue and don’t over-estimate the length of your manhood or it will keep slipping out and hit her sensitive areas. Now this is a definite turn off.

Missus Singapore out!

THE PERFECT DATE

Nothing like zipping past the formalities and getting to the whole purpose for some. Check out the Video of the Week, sent in my Jackson Thifsen from New Caledonia. It gives a whole new meaning to a one-night-stand.

I've had several painful dates before where I wished they had suggested what the man in the video does. At least it would have spared me from a wasted night. I still get my meal, he still gets off and we never see each other again. The perfect date!

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is how Leisha P, a Briton who is living and working in Hong Kong keeps her moods up. The 44-year old single mother of two is a sociologist working in a local university there. I'm impressed with that there are actually academics who follow me.

"I read how someone actually wrote in previously about how she would stay away from people that irks her. I would like to reiterate that that can really make a difference to one's moods. I find men who think they know it all as my greatest source of irritation. I should know as I was married to one such man. If I am planning to meet a male friend for an intimate night, I would try my best to keep away from such men as much as I can on a personal level.

If I come into contact with them, they will tend to irritate the hell out of me and kill my mood. The last I would want to do is spend a night with the species, even if he is not the sort. So I find cleansing myself of opinionated men for the day has a fantastic affect on my libido. Some men, most men really, think they understand women and our nuances. Others even think they understand how our hormones work! So rather than to confront and try to explain things to them, I'd rather slip away and spend my precious time doing something else. Sadly, a woman still depends on a man for sex, at least for the foreseeable future."

MS:  Well Leisha, there is really nothing we can do about people with opinions so what you are doing does make a hell of a lot of sense. As for me, I won't let them bother me. I'm kind of immune to that sort of thing. I laugh it off most of the time rather than waste my energy and effort on someone who just refuses to be educated. Some try to be really intelligent but you can tell from what they are saying that they are just coughing out their egos the way many men do. Thanks for your comments and the research papers you sent. Interesting reads!

Missus Singapore out!

GO DOWN ON HIM

In line with what a recent reader wrote in to say, here is a cartoon that describes what she and some women I know use blows for. It's either in exchange for something or to lessen the blow of doing something wrong.

For me, a blow is sacred. It's an art form. It's a pleasure and perhaps even a hobby. You can never practice enough. And practice means exposing yourself to different subjects. The key is flexibility in your approach.

Missus Singapore out!

SHAME ON MODEL AGENCIES!

I remember reading a few articles several years back when there was this debate on skinny models. Major agencies had claimed they were no longer searching for skinny women in the hope that they would their parts to curb false perceptions amongst numerous young girls. The subject of anorexia nervosa and bulimia and its rising impact on teenage girls was the topic. I was all for it.

I have been slim and even thin when I was younger but it was just me. I had always been thin but when I became a model, I was shocked that I was hardly the thinnest of all. In fact, I was no where near rib-showing skinny. I often thought that something was wrong about the way these girls were. I only knew later what they were up to.

So when I read about this so-called world-wide drive my major agencies to create a healthy trend, I was pleased. However, I've noticed that it has somewhat fallen on deaf ears. Flipping through some international fashion magazines the other day, I realised that no headway has been made. And then I stumbled upon a season of America's Top Models, I think it was season 11 and was shocked at how skinny these girls were. I mean ribs and bones were showing up all over the place it was unbelievable.

Tyra of all people should know having been in the business for a long time. So I'm really disappointed by how things have transpired.  Just as I feel strongly about letting yourself grow into unhealthy proportions, I am equally against women, or girls, who just subject their bodies to such extremes. I know it is a disease but it has come about from all these perceptions that the media portrays.

What can we do? Lots.

A friend has stopped buying magazines that use such models. Spread the word and make your opinions heard about how they are a turn off. I know once the mindset gets stuck, it becomes a disease and they will no longer be aware of the harm they are doing. So if you think a family member or friend is heading that way, get help for them.

Missus Singapore out!

OFFICE CUP WITH A DIFFERENCE

Katrina, a friend in the media actually sent me this photo of a cup she purchased online. I love her guts! She does all sorts of crazy things and even has this cup in her office.

I would have thought it might have attracted more male visitors to her cubicle but strangely enough, the men have stopped coming over to her - she is one sexy bitch - and flirting. She got tired of that and found this to actually turn them away. So much for the daring male!

Ironically, many of her female friends have started to come over to her workstation and have had their fingers all over the thing.

Missus Singapore out!

GO CELTICS!

Just got word that a friend of ours from New York is coming to these parts in November. She used to be a former Celtics cheer-dancer back in 2005. Obviously with my hubby a die-hard Celtics fan, he is ecstatic. This is the fourth time we are meeting her. The first time was when we met up in Bali in 2004 and thereafter when we were taken around New York when we visited. But me and her have kept in constant contact via email since.

But more to that, she has a body to die for and I'm not sure if the hubby is more thrilled about the fact that she rubbed shoulders with some of his favourites or for her curves. Probably the latter. But seriously, have you seen some of these women? They are hot!

But what he doesn't know and I'll leave her to tell him is that she actually supports the Knicks! LOL! Trust us, we will probably be having lots of sweaty fun! All I can do now is don the cap colours!

Missus Singapore out!

THE NET SUCKS

I suppose the Internet has its advantages in terms of how easy it is to surf for porn. But I think because of that, it has also killed the excitement. It's no longer taboo or the unknown and it doesn't make you go wow when some 'rare' adult magazine to show you. You want it, you log on and you get it. Bor-ring!

Nothing like a live sex show. Lots of them around in these parts (not in squeaky-clean Singapore though). Ask around and I'm sure you will find them.

Here is a photo sent in my Jeff from Malaysia. Kisses.

Missus Singapore out!

OUT WITH IT - SISTER TO SISTER

Here is KG who has an interesting experience that he shared with me recently. It has been eating him for the longest time. It involves two sisters.

"I've been a freelance writer for close to 20 years. I used to do a lot of business writing but over the last decade, I found myself writing a lot about parenting and family issues. So I was interviewing this woman who was to be featured in a parenting article. Apparently, they wanted to feature how she manages her business and looking after her two young children.

Serene was not too comfortable doing the interview at her show so she suggested that I come about to her place later that evening. I did and to cut the story short, I found out that she was in the midst of a separation and so was essentially a deprived and horny woman. We had sex that night and several nights for months. She was not particularly good in bed but it helped me to pass my time.

What I later found out was that she had another sister, Samantha who had a hot body that just called out to me. Serene told me that she was a lesbian and so my hopes were dashed about the possibility of getting them both in bed together for a threesome.

Anyway, one night after sex, I slipped on my shorts and wanted to get a drink of water. I was surprised when Samantha was also in the kitchen, having a cigarette. She wore the tiniest of tank-tops which had her tits all spilling out. But knowing her sexual orientation, I didn't pursue it.

I got myself a drink, joined her for a cigarette and we started talking. Somewhere along the way, I felt her hand run up my thighs and she started brushing against my cock, which was getting harder by the minute. I felt awkward - thinking that she was just messing about. But then she began to squeeze it, and when she finished her cigarette, she went down and pulled my shorts down.

She gobbled it like nothing her sister could do and I was so taken aback by how good she was that I wanted more. I pulled her up, pulled down her panty (that was all she was wearing), and slipped my cock into her wet pussy. I pounded her like never before and we soon took out indiscretions into her bedroom. I came twice and she once before I quickly slipped back into bed with Serene.

Since that night, Sam and I had sex about five times.  If not for her, I would have stopped seeing Serene much earlier than I did. But I never told anyone about this.  One time when I slipped back into bed with Serene after sneaking out to fuck her sister, she asked me, where I went. I told her that I was having fun with Samantha. She replied, "Yeah sure. She's lesbian you idiot."

Who's the idiot I wonder."

MS: Thanks KG for your VERY LONG confession. That is a big thing to keep inside for so long and I hope you are feeling better. Could it be possible that Serene actually knew about it. Maybe her sister was helping her to take a break from you? It won't be the first time sisters have been known to conspire with each other. 

Missus Singapore out!

HOT STUD

Check out the Video of the Week. You can never have too many such men in your life. I wonder what it does for women. I once knew this guy who could go on and on like a Duracell bunny.

Didn't have a big tool by my word, he really wore me down. Had a great bod though. Considering that I was much younger and fitter and my stamina levels were great, I must say that he was a loser outside of bed. The last time I head about him was from a mutual friend years ago that he got caught vadalising his girlfriend's home after she dumped him.

All's well that ends well. Fortunately for me, he was only a passing thing but still thinking about how sore he always made me feel still gives me a quiver between my legs.

Missus Singapore out!

A BLOW'S WORTH

I was speaking to a girlfriend over the phone and she was telling me how she managed to 'persuade' her husband to spend next weekend at her parents place - something he dreads. I'm not going to get into the subject of in-laws but rather how she went about 'persuading' him.

Simply put, she went down on him. She was telling me how she would always give him a rare blow whenever she wanted something. I actually know a guy she was seeing before she got hitched and he would sometimes reveal how she sucked at it - and I mean it not in a good way mind you.

So I decided to ask her what she felt about going down on a man and her response was that she would rather not do it. She considers it a chore and is although she didn't mention it upfront, I gathered that she was disgusted by the act.

Now I am, as most of you know, a lover of the deed but I certainly don't suggest going down on a man just for the sake of it. Worst still, when you dislike it. It's something that has to come with attitude.

Forget the skills because if the attitude and desire to please isn't there, you might as well just do something else.

If sex-for-favours is the kind of sex life you have, then all I can say is you are missing out on a whole lot of adventure and passion.

For a woman, giving a blow can give you a sense of empowerment over a man, especially when you sprinkle it with some variation every now and then. By variation, I don't just mean your skills but with how you approach it. Yes, sometimes I just want to pull down a man's pants to get down rough and heady while at other times, I'd like to make a less direct approach like kissing his body and moving gradually around his tool before taking it in my mouth.

I'm sure a lot of women use that as a means to get something in return but by doing so, they are losing out themselves. Pity.

Missus Singapore out!

BANANAS AND SEX

Wipe those dirty thoughts from your filthy heads. I'm talking about eating them and not for anything else. Apparently, its a great food to boost the male libido. This has to do with the enzyme bromelain.

They are also a good source of riboflavin and potassium, which increase the body's total energy levels and do it quickly. Ever see how professional long-distance runners and cyclists always seem to be having one along the way. But with regards to sex, the B vitamins and potassium, which are found in bananas, are also important for sex-hormone production in men and women.

I always figured that it had other advantages. :-)

Missus Singapore out!

SMALL SPACE, MASS ORGY

This is especially for all those many people who keyed in Mass Orgy and somehow landed on my blog. I'm curious how that happened. Anyway, now there is no need for me to be curious after I tag this post!

This photo, rather creative, gives a new meaning to a mass orgy, appropriate in a place like Singapore where apartments are tiny to say the least. Now who says you can't squeeze in the folks and not leave anyone out.

Thanks Gloria for this photo. Loved it.

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is a mood boosting tip from Susmawanti from Indonesia. She is an extraordinary woman of 44, has two teenage daughters and is a fashion buyer in Jakarta. She loves to read up on tantric sex and is a amateur numerologist in her free time. She is married for the second time now.

"I trained as a ballerina when I was younger and continue to dance and even attend pilates classes. I find that after each stretching session, my thighs, tummy and legs get really warm. But because it sends a lot of blood to the area, I get really easily aroused. So some years back, I decided to try doing a round of stretching at night and found that I was horny quite easily. But better still, I was also more enthusiastic in bed. It really clears you mind and sets you up for an enjoyable time in bed."

MS: Ever tried collapsing the pre-sex workout and sex itself into one deed? Gosh, I am always so envious of women who are so flexible. I try to be but almost always, end up out of action for a few days from a strained neck, back or pulled muscle somewhere.

Missus Singapore out! 

ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

Q: My bedroom is just too small for sex. What can I do?

MS: Unfortunately, in Singapore, many apartments, even (or especially) the private ones have bedrooms just big enough for a queen-sized bed. You will be lucky to fit a king-sized bed to be honest. Most wardrobes are built-in though.

But in all honesty, the bed is the least of your problems seeing that there is not much you can do to increase space. Perhaps, what you ought to do is make the room more conducive for the ritual.

Many often ignore the environmental factors – laundry basket, clutter on the floor or toilet-table, dusty frames or surfaces and the most important – the lack of ideal mood illumination. Go for incandescent lighting with a dark-coloured lamp shade or even candles if space is a serious issue. Keep the room clean, scent it up and if you like, bring in some music too.

Other than that, you will need a lot of imagination and creativity to make it a spicy experience.

Missus Singapore out!

THREE WISHES

One day in a great forest, a magical frog was hopping down to a water hole. This forest was so big that the frog had never seen another animal in all his life. But by chance that day, he witnessed a bear chasing after a rabbit. The frog called for the two to stop.

The frog said, "Because you are the only two animals I have ever seen, I will grant you both three wishes. Bear, you go first." The bear thought for a minute, and being the male he was, he said, "I wish for all the bears in this forest, besides me, to be female."

For his first wish, the rabbit asked for a crash helmet and immediately put it on. The bear was amazed at the stupidity of the rabbit, wasting his wish like that.

It was the bear's second turn for a wish. "Well, I wish that all the bears in the next forest were female as well." Rabbit then asked for a motorcycle and immediately hopped on it and gunned the engine. The bear was shocked that the rabbit was asking for these stupid things; after all, he could have asked for money and bought the motorcycle.

For his last wish, the bear thought for a moment and then said, "I wish that all the bears in the world, besides me, were female." The rabbit grinned, gunned the engine, and said as he sped away, "I wish that the bear was gay..."

MS: MS Dairy, thanks for all the animal-centric jokes. I found this one especially amusing!

Missus Singapore out!

GO COUGARS!

The term Cougar, I feel, shouldn't be restricted to single unmarried and matured women. I know quite a few who fit that description. But I bet you my bottom dollar that the younger men really want Cougars who are married or at who have been married.

Matured or not, being single means means that you tend to see life differently. Your sexual mindsets (not necessarily experience) are still rather tame in the board sense. The sexually active married women are more forthcoming, know what they want and don't beat about the bush taking what they want in bed. Maybe, that's just me.

Anyway, watch more about in on the video of the week.

Missus Singapore out!