THREESOME NOSOME (POLL 23)

Well it turns out that threesomes are not as common as one would imagine. Many emails came in saying that it is really a fantasy of theirs but fixing it up is often difficult. Well, to be honest, it's not something that is easy to go down with anyone unless they have thought about it or know what it involves to begin with.

MMF seems to be the most popular amongst my readers so I gather the gals are getting more than their fair share of it. But seriously, there is always the idea that a woman will have to be a bisexual to be involved in this. Not true. More often than not, the guys I know who have been involved in threesomes are heterosexual.

We gals should learn from them because they seem to have an unwritten code of how to go about it without so much as skin-on-skin contact with each other. I've had threesomes with women who are heterosexual too and although she was not too squirmish about skin-on-skin as many men are, it was not an issue at all. In fact our bodies touched more than several occasions and not she is a bona-fide threesome groupie - always bugging me when the next session is planned for. (Yes, Jean, I'm referring to you!)

So anyway, here are the results for the poll on threesomes. A total of 64 respondents were involved and 72% (46) of them had not been involved in it.

I did not expect the numbers to be so high really. I figured that in this day and age, there would be more people involved in it compared to a survey that was carried out here in 1998 where 60% (out of 150 people) said that they hadn't tried it.

Missus Singapore out!

SEX BITS

Hookup culture isn't killing relationships.

According to a study by a University of Iowa sociologist, casual sex does not necessarily dilute the possibility of falling in love or becoming romantically involved.

Anthony Paik's survey of 642 adults in Chicago initially found that "average relationship quality was higher for individuals who waited until things were serious to have sex compared to those who became sexually involved in 'hookups,' 'friends with benefits,' or casual dating relationships". This was according to the press release on the study.

However, when Paik had controlled for people who had zero interest in having a relationship, that difference disappeared.

He said, "Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances and were open to a serious relationship ended up just as happy as those who dated and waited."

Apparently, the study did not pick up much evidence that relationships were lower quality because they started off as hookups. It suggests that rewarding relationships are possible for those who delay sex. But it's also possible for true love to emerge if things start off with a more 'Sex and the City' approach, when people spot each other across the room, become sexually involved and then build a relationship.

Read More at Salon.com.

MS: Honestly, this isn't a big revelation. Many of us already knew about this either first-hand or from the experiences of friends. Of course this study didn't mention how long these relationships lasted or if they progressed into a live long union.

It's really a matter or timing and moods for me. Hell, we can be so strong at times while at other moments, we tend to be so fickle and emotionally swayed that if a particular song is playing at the time a man approaches us, it is not too hard to envisage ourselves locked into a mysterious bond that finds us swooning in bed over this guy a few hours later. Sometimes we hope he calls the next day. Sometimes we don't.

Missus Singapore out!

PASSENGERS IN TROUBLE

I was on the MRT the other evening and it wasn't terribly crowded but most of the seats were taken. Sometime during the journey, this young couple came on and sat down beside me. I could see from the reflection in the glass window that they obviously needed a room.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it. After all it's the 21st Century and couples are free to do what they want. So being really tired from a long day, I decided to close my eyes but this guy's elbow kept nudging into me. He did it once, I moved. Usually a third time would get me going but I was tired and his bony elbow was hurting me somewhat. So I just let go, "Excuse me but can you please stop nudging into me."

They both stopped what they were doing and almost fell off their seats in shock. I didn't expect their reaction to be honest.

The girl turned to the guy and asked him "Why do you want to touch her? I'm not good enough for you is it?"

He kept quite but she continued ranting even while they were leaving the train. I was amused. One moment, this was a couple who simply couldn't get their hands off each other and now, because of me, they were having a heated argument.

Amazing how love can turn a corner so quickly.

Missus Singapore out!

ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

Q: Is it normal for a woman to prefer fondling and a massage over sex? That seems to be the case with my partner.

MS: Remember the moments leading to your first sexual encounter? Chances are it was passionate with fondling and foreplay to last a lifetime. It has to do with touch. She may feel tired but it may be her way of asking you to help relax her body. It may not always end up with sex but such a deed is registered and payback is often to your benefit.

Don’t underrate what touch can do for a woman. Hey, if she allows you to touch her, that’s always a good sign. Maybe she just wants to take it slow and revisit with those heady moments of past. Moreover, a nice massage can get the blood flowing all over which has the tendency to not only soothe but also arouse. At the end of the day, you have to remember that every woman is different and respond differently to touch.

Missus Singapore out!

ON THE VERGE

Well congratulations to the very beautiful Miss Mexico for winning the Miss Universe crown. Somehow, that doesn't seem to carry as much flair as it used to. Instead, everyone seems to be licking their lips as to just when her scandal will hit the news.

It's almost as if by winning a pageant, people expect a scandal to follow. But really, so what if she had sex before, or if there are nude photos of her circulating around the net? It's not as if this is a pageant for virgins or Miss Pure.

Take the Mrs pageant I took part in. The good thing about it is there don't seem to be any scandals associated with it because - you must have screwed to be able to take part in the competition to begin with. No screwing, no children and no children, no entry to the competition. So who cares about any scandal from a Mrs pageant, even though there are more than enough stories to shake your world for a long time.

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is another submission from Kate, from Malaysia on her methods of getting into the right mood for her man.

"If there is one thing that always gets me happy, it's spending time with my family. When I share moments with them, I am reminded how lucky I am to have them. And when my husband is there, I am reminded that he is just as responsible for them as I am. Inevitably, when I am happy this way, I also feel drawn to him and of course usually, intimacy will follow later. "

Thanks for this Kate. It's really a nice way to look at things and something that only couples with children will appreciate. I feel that way too although at times I also want to kill my husband who gave me the kids when they drive me up the wall!

Missus Singapore out!

A WOMAN'S WAY

A 34-year old man writes in, "I just can't seem to understand my wife. Sometimes she is so much in the mood for sex that at times she even jumps me but at other times, when I do the same to her, she pulls away. Women are weird."

Tomas, from Spain.

MS: Well, Tomas, she is not weird. She is just  being a woman. You have to understand that women are for most parts, cyclic creatures who are at the mercy of hormones. What is going on in her life at that point in time is also a contributing factor.

If you think that just because my blog centres on sexuality that I am humping all the time, well you are wrong. There are times that I just don't feel in the mood. I mean it could be to the extent that I'd probably go for a root canal than have sex. Okay, maybe that's a bit exaggerated but you get the idea.

Women do get bored easily too, especially when its the same song and dance routine. So you need to take some time to understand your woman. Hang out together without any pressure on sex to get to know each other on different levels. That way you would probably be more in-tuned to her moods and if you are lucky enough, you might even discover the key to getting her in the mood. It really pays to take time to know your woman.

Missus Singapore out!

MEAT TO EAT

Here is a doctored ad but a pretty good one. For me, give me my cereal every morning please. I just need my power food to get me through the day. But then again, morning dick is also something I'd consider. I'd rather have it then than at the end of the day dick, which might not be as hard. 

I think the ad (if it is really as it is) should be featuring a hard dick. I mean placing it beside morning cereal, implying a morning meal, there should be a hard dick she is holding. That would make it a more telling choice. In this case, flaccid dick over cereal, not much of a competition. I'll take cereal anytime.

Thanks Don, from Quebec, Canada

Missus Singapore out!

GWEN IS A DOGGY!

Remember my friend Gwen? I posted sometime back (2006) about her never ever being taken from the rear by anyone let alone her husband of 13 years. Well, I sort of lost touch with her when she headed overseas due her hubby's posting to the US.

We did exchange the occasional email while she was there but she is back and we caught up over the weekend. Latest report from her - she has added one more adorable girl to her brood of two.

Interestingly, she did not take too long to revisit with the subject of our conversation about her not experiencing a doggy, ever. Guess what? She is now a 'certified bitch' - as she puts it because she just can't get enough of it these days. In fact, she even went on to claim that her latest child was a result of it! Wow. Even I don't recall how or when I conceived my two kids.

So anyway, she has nothing but thanks for me after persuading her to try it. Actually, all I did was tell her not to restrict her bedroom activities to a single position. I used the doggy as an example only.

Little did I know I would be transforming her preferences completely. While I too love the doggy, I have to admit I've never quite achieved the fixation that she has. I'm doomed to hell. What kind of monster have I created?

Missus Singapore out!

DON'T WANT THE WIFE BACK!

A man bought a new sports car and was out for a nice evening drive. Midway through his drive, he spotted the familiar flashing of red and blue light behind him.

"There's no way they will catch me," he thought, and stepped on the gas.

The needle hit 90, 100, 110, 130. and finally 150 with the lights still behind him.

"What in hell am I doing?" he thought and pulled over.

The cop came up to him, took his license without a word and examined it and the car.

"I've had a tough shift and this is my last pull over. I don't feel like more paperwork so if you can give me an excuse for your driving that I haven't heard before, then you can go!"

"Last week my wife ran off with a cop," the man said, "and I was afraid you were trying to give her back!"

"Have a nice night", said the officer.

MS: Thanks Daniel Ling for this and all the other things you sent in.

Missus Singapore out!

OUT WITH IT!

"My cousin got married in 1985 to a wonderful woman. They were only 21 and I was also around the same age. I felt it was a wee bit young then. Anyway, we used to hang out together a lot and at the time I was in and out of many relationships.

I can't say that I didn't expect it but a few months into the union, they started having a lot of arguments and things were not rosy. I wanted to stay out of things and not take sides which I managed to do. However, my cousin called me and asked if I could help her out and talk to her. He sounded desperate and so I agreed.

We met at the beach one evening (her idea). We started talking and found out that she was finding it hard to get use to his long string of previous girlfriends who still keep calling him. She felt threatened by it and it didn't help that she was a little on the insecure side.

I encouraged her to sit down and talk to him and lay everything out (which I figured they should have done before they tied the knot). It was a long tiring talk and it toned down a little as the night was in full swing. Then out of the blue, she turned around to hug me. I hugged her back thinking that it was done in appreciation. But then she turned her lips to mine, kissed me and before I could pull away, she had her hand on my dick.

Being the horny retard that I was then, I didn't push her away. In fact, I helped her unzip my jeans and pulled out my throbbing dick. She stroked it for a while and then went down on me. It was a blow in angst and I loved it!

Then without any warning, she went on her knees, pulled down her pantie from under her skirt, and with one hand firmly gripping my dick, she guided it in. It was a wild fuck in the open (of course in the dark) but we later took it to my place where we spent the whole night screwing each other.

Interestingly, she never nor did I, say a word as we were screwing. Not a single word. We never did it again and although they did get back together after that, their marriage only lasted for about two years before they decided to call it quits. It was our little secret and has stayed that way since - I fucked my cousin's new wife or rather she fucked me!"
Gordon P, East, Singapore

MS: So it does pay to lend a ear! Gosh with the confessions that I am receiving such as this one, I really think I should have no problem whatsoever getting a place in heaven!

Missus Singapore out!

ROUGH OR SENSUAL? (POLL 22)

Here are the poll results for the one on rough versus sensual sex. The figures speak for themselves. Although I expected it to be about equal, I certainly didn't expect that this many people (65.3%) actually enjoyed it.

As for me, I enjoy it too and like Freda from Malaysia wrote in to say, "I like them both but it has to depend on my moods."

It also depends on the man really. Sometimes a woman's idea of rough is nothing like what a man has in mind so it's important to communicate these things before the first item of clothing is removed. Talk they say is cheap but if it becomes part of the foreplay, then it will be very beneficial to all parties. It's a great way to stir up the excitement.

Rough sex takes skill in order not to hurt your partner. If you think rough sex is all about hard and ferocious pounding like there is no tomorrow and with no regard for the woman, well then you are not ready to have it.

It's really about getting your tool in and out quickly. Hard thrusting? Yes, but not banging into her pelvic bone or slipping out and hitting your tool against the soft and sensitive external tissues of her privates. Trust me, that's really no fun for the woman and you might make her want to avoid rough sex altogether.

I think one way is to get the woman to take control of the rough sex and slowly work to gain her trust and confidence in you enough to let her relinquish control at some point.

Anyway, as usual, thank you all for your votes.

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is one mood booster sent in by Eve Nalstrom. Eve is a 46-year old mother of two, one of whom is autistic. Like all mothers, she is stressed by motherhood - more so since she has a special-needs child to look after. But she is an example of a woman who will not bow to her goals of enjoying life (and sex) to the fullest. Here is how she boosts her mood for sex.

"It's hard for me to find time for myself but on the rare occasions that I do, I will jog around my apartment. It just clears my mind and I feel recharged. Each time I do so I increase it by one round. Now I am up to 9 rounds. Not only am I fitter, I'm also able to think better and clearer and the bonus for me(and my husband) is that I also find myself hungrier for sex after each run."

Missus Singapore out!

HEADLINE NEWS!

"A new study says; the kind of smartphone you wield could play a role in how lucky you are getting laid! According to statistics by an online dating website published this week, iPhone users have more sex on average than BlackBerry and Android owners.

OkCupid, one of the nation's largest free online dating services, has released statistics gathered from users, which showed that by the age of 30, female iPhone owners had had twice as many sexual partners as Android users and 25 percent more than BlackBerry users. Male iPhone users were also shown to have had more sexual partners at 30 than BlackBerry or Android-owning members, though the margins were slightly narrower."

As reported in IGN Gear.

MS: What a joke! I doubt this has any credibility since you can never trust OKCupid to 'hook you up with the perfect one'.Then with the number of aps available, where will anyone ever find the time to get laid? I think the ones with the boring plain phones tend to get laid the most! LOL!

Missus Singapore out!

DATING DON'TS

I was out with a few friends last week. It was a little disappointing because it was supposed to be a girls' night out but one of my friends Sue, decided to bring a new boyfriend along on the pretext of introducing him to us.

Sue is a divorcee with two children and is around my age. The other three girlfriends were all in same age group too. But this guy, let's call him Alex, was about 10 years younger than any of us. He was quite a dresser and pretty good looking. Charming guy really, until he started opening his mouth.

Meeting him led me to write this post about what you should not do when you are out with your girlfriend and her friends. It's really common sense. When you are out with your girlfriend's friends, one of the things you should not do is to comment on how hot another of her friends is.

Sue called me up the next day to tell me about how Alex went on and on about hot hot I was. Although I am not one to dismiss comments like that (especially at my age), I was aghast on hearing them in this instance.

Even if I am smoking hot (which I think I am, LOL), you should have the good sense not to mention it to your girlfriend, not even if you are kidding around. I don't think any woman will find it funny or amusing. In fact, you might probably make her angry or hurt.

Sue was definitely feeling that way. I'm betting she will never invite him to our outings again not because she won't trust us but more likely that she won't trust him.

The dating game is really about making the right moves at the right time and this is definitely one of the worse moves to make. Even if it is true that a woman has smoking hot friends, keep it to yourself. Your job is to make her the centre of your attraction and. You want to make her feel special no matter what.

Even if you think your girlfriend is secure enough to handle this piece of information, don't test it out because she won't be. Most women hate to feel like they are second best to their guy no matter what the tell you.

Missus Singapore out!

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YOG COMES TO SINGAPORE

In case you didn't know, Singapore is currently playing host to the first ever Youth Olympic Games.

But so as not to ignore us oldies who are still active in other ways, here is a cartoon sent in by Jeff from Norway. Apparently sports is a little different up North - but definitely more interesting.  It's great isn't it? Everyone can participate and you don't just need to be a good jumper too. I wouldn't mind being the opener!

Missus Singapore out!

WEAPON OF MASS DISTRACTION

Many women spend a lot of their lives doing things (READ: Spending money on beauty and fashion) trying to be or look like somebody they are not or who they can never be. When they are young, it's looking up to older 'role models' and when they get older, it becomes a perpetual battle trying to look like somebody younger.

I think that this quest to look like someone else is just robbing them of the best years of their lives. They could be doing a lot more to promote their own inner characteristics and outer charms. I have to admit that when I was younger, I did for a while try to emulate some women.

Don't laugh but I had to save my allowance for a whole school term just so that I could have a Farrah Fawcett hairstyle. Invariably, there was also the make-up that was a must wear during parties at the time - Mary Quant. We were awe struck by Jean Shrimpton, the world's first real supermodel from London who helped proliferate the Mod and Swinging London looks of the 60s and 70s.

I'm not proposing we stop this idol-worshiping (not that we can) because all women or girls go through this stage. The thing is, I'd figure that once they grow up and mature and become supposedly wiser, that they would grow out of this phase. Instead it gets worse for many of them.

I have some friends in their forties who are still going for hairstyles that stars have even though it does not necessarily suit them of bring out their best attributes.

As you get older, it's better paying attention to what works for you, what you feel comfortable with and not what magazine models or celebrities showcase. Unless you have personal trainers, fashion advisors (and designers), $1,000-an-hour hairdressers or touch-up artists shadowing you all the while, it ain't gonna work for you.

There are literally millions of looks and as many styles as there are people out there so find one that is you. Confidence will follow once you get the look that suits you.  If you watch a fashion show, you can tell. Just look at the models and you will have some idea who likes what they are wearing and who doesn't. It's not in their smile (because they hardly ever do) but in their body language.

One of the most powerful weapons of mass distraction (WMD) is a woman's confidence. She may not be the most attractive in the room but if she is confident, she will be noticed for sure. Now isn't that what we all spend indecent amounts of money to achieve?

Missus Singapore out!

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ASK THE BOLDER WOMAN

I only seem to be able to bring my wife to orgasm one way. We rarely try any other position and it’s getting quite boring.

Q: You seem to repeat it because it works. She doesn’t mind as long as she gets off. There is nothing wrong with that but if the journey is not particularly enjoyable anymore, it might have to do with monotony seeping in. You should consciously try to get her to explore other positions.

Books are aplenty on options. Discuss it, visualise doing it and head to the bedroom to experiment. You will find that even if you fumble and never get it right, it tends to add more adventure and fun to your bedroom sojourns. Look at it this way: even if it fails to achieve the desired results, there is always a foolproof alternative.

The trick is not to be too hung up on finding another orgasm-inducing position. A lot of times, it is discovered by accident and isn't that better? The fact that you are finding for something new shows that sexual gratification is high up on your list of priorities and that is a good thing for your relationship.

Missus Singapore out!

A TIGHT THREESOME

Sheela is this Indian girl I know. We met a few years back when she was a marketing executive for a medical equipment company. I was then writing an article and contacted her for some assistance.

We have since developed a friendship that involves a once-a-month meeting for high-tea or a few drinks at the pub. We seemed to click because unlike many of my other local Singaporean Indian girlfriends, she was not exactly the conservative type.

Anyway, she is 33 this year and super voluptuous. And If you think I'm horny, well she is in another league altogether!

So anyway, we met for high-tea earlier this week and she was looking hot as ever. We did the formalities bit and by the halfway stage of tackling our slices of cheesecakes, we went straight into the juicy parts.

She did not only look fresh but as I found out, she was also fresh from a threesome which she had over the extended National Day weekend. I wasn't really surprised by the threesome bit - I kinda expected that was something she had often anyhow.

But what was interesting was where it had unfolded - in a car!

Okay, Sheela was a lot shorter than I was but nonetheless, it would take some doing to have a threesome in the back seat of a car unless it was one of those family station wagons where you could push back the rear seat. It wasn't. It was a Mini One Hatch!

You would have to be a Lilliputian to pull that off! Obviously, I wasn't as adventurous as I figured I was or not as flexible.

So eagerly I prompted her for details.

Apparently, she rode on one guy and had to bend adjacently to give head to the other guy. Okay, doable I suppose.

Then the other position saw them lower the front passenger seat and shifted it backwards a little. She rested on it with her head on the back seat and most of her body on the lowered front seat. One guy took up position in the front of her (probably had his butt against the dashboard) while the other climbed over her head to feed her with his tool. Interesting, I thought.

But what took the cake was when she turned over doggy style, as the guy entered her from where he was in the front as the other guy sat against the back seat to receive head. It was a wild time and they all got off, according to her but were there any casualties?

Sheela said that other than some scratches on the door and dashboard, and some spunk stains on the front seat, no further damage was sustained. But she did say that one of the guys was complaining of back and neck pains the next day while the other had a bruised butt!

Talk about a tight squeeze. And here I was thinking that having a threesome in an office store room was too tight for comfort!

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is this week's mood booster from another reader. Gloria from Penang, Malaysia, is a 33-year old legal assistant who is married with no children.

"When I was younger, I used to look forward to traveling to faraway lands to explore new sights and people. But these days, even though I no longer have to save for an eternity just to travel since I draw a decent salary, my traveling is mostly involving short getaways for a few days or over the weekend.

It's really the chance to re-energise myself and clear my head of all my stresses. I find that with that out of the way, I return home recharged and more importantly, my mind, body and soul are cleansed. Interestingly, I'm also very horny once I get back from any getaway."

MS: I can attest to the effects of a good break from work, no matter how short it is. With work invading much of our thoughts during the work week, it's really hard to shift one's attention to other things, sex being one of them. For us with children, sex is pushed event further down the list. So unless we want to cast sex out our radars (not recommended), we need to chill once in a while.

Perhaps the only difference for me is that I spend my getaways jump-starting the sex part only to return from it to continue for as long as I can until work spoils it. Striking a work-life-sex balance is difficult but not impossible. The thing is, you have to want it to begin with.

Missus Singapore out!

SUBTLE COMPLIMENTS

Men often go overboard when dishing out comments to their dates. One of the biggest mistakes (in my opinion) is when they start pointing out how hot a woman's body is.

Attractive women are most likely immune to such compliments and for the plane Janes out there, they would probably know where they stand and would think that the guy is stretching it a bit too far. The guy would come across as being patronising.

On the one hand, such compliments may be greeted with suspicion (READ: trying to get lucky) while on the other hand, a guy would genuinely want to make known his opinion of the woman he is with. On the woman's part - many are paranoid about being taken for a ride while, yet are always happy to receive  compliments about the way they look or dress. So what does a guy do?

If you want to stand a better chance and make any headway, compliment a woman on her eyes and smile It sounds more believable - which is what you are aiming for. Focus on inner qualities than outer beauty. Avoid saying something like 'You've got a great ass!".

Of course it also depends on how old the woman is. For us more mature ones, the rules are different. Well, actually, for us mature types, there are no rules. If you say I have a great ass or anything for that matter, I'd probably say something like 'well you haven't felt it yet so how do you know?"

Missus Singapore out!

MS ADVISORY - NO UNDOING

Time for the monthly advisory. I think this particular one does have an impact on the digital generation of today. It is in a language that they may perhaps be able to relate to. Thanks Loverboy from Sweden. Good to know that you're gay and proud of it. Even better to know that you enjoy my blog!

Missus Singapore out!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SINGAPORE!

It's our National Day today. We're a young country by world standards - only 45 years old today but few can deny that we are a beacon of peace in the east. With all that's happening in these parts, we offer a safe reprieve from all the turmoil. For how long? well you can never tell.

For now, it's time to celebrate our uniqueness as a nation and party! Of course if you really want to help the nation with its population problem, here's what you can do. Get laid and get knocked up or knock somebody up!

Missus Singapore out!

A GREAT DICK TO FLY

Simon Harold from New Zealand sent me this interesting photo of a plane with the heading the Mile High Airlines. I'm not sure if the guys would want to get onboard such a plane but definitely, it would leave many women licking their lips at the prospect. 

Taking to the skies would never be greeted the same way ever. Women would definitely be assured that all their needs will be met. The sky is the limit for this airline. The only question left to ask is "Where do I book a flight?'

Missus Singapore out!

OUT WITH IT

Here is an intriguing letter sent in by a reader in February this year! I really sorry for not being able to feature this Yvonne but as you know, I have lots of letters to sieve through.

So without anymore delay, here is Yvonne's letter. She is 37 years old, a marketing manager from Singapore who is married with a preschooler. It's rather long but quite an interesting read. Enjoy!

"I often hang out with two other friends. At least once a fortnight we would meet either for a meal or to have a drink and chill. One of them was a divorcee with a son. She was the eldest. The other was single and in and out of relationships. At that time, about 10 years ago, I was still single but seeing someone, whom I later married.

So anyway, the divorcee, let's call her Eleanor, had brought along this Eurasian guy she had been seeing during one of our outings. Apparently, he was an old childhood friend who coincidentally worked in the same office as her. He was married (obviously cheating) but boy was he good looking and absolutely charming.  I found myself attracted to him but kept it to myself. We all got on fine.

So a few weeks later, we were supposed to all meet at Eleanor's apartment - one she had obtained ownership from her ex-husband. She gave Ken (this Eurasian guy) the keys to her apartment and he was hanging out when I got there. Eleanor had to attend to her son who was having some problems in his school.

Ken let me in and we sat down and chatted for a while. The attraction between us was mutual and slowly, we began fondling each other. It was getting hot and heavy and he had just started to caress my breasts when the doorbell rang. It was the other friend of ours, Gwen.

Gwen was the most outgoing of us three friends and had the hottest body. But she also had a good sense to know what we were up to once we let her in. She smiled and asked where Eleanor was and when she found out she was not due for a couple of hours, she turned to us and told us candidly, to continue what we were doing and that she won't tell.

I was a little taken aback but still, I was hot and wet down there. I agreed but pulled Ken towards one of the bedrooms. This time we quickly undressed and jumped onto the bed. I then started going down on his really nice tool - gobbling it up like I had not eaten for weeks. Actually, being Eurasian, he was bigger than the Chinese guys I had been with before.

So there I was sucking his hardness. Suddenly, from behind me, I hear Gwen's expression.

"Wow, that's a big dick!"

I was holding the throbbing thing in my hand as I looked up and before I could respond, she walked up to the bed, took it from me and began sucking it just as enthusiastically as I had been doing moments earlier.

I watched as she quickly got out of her clothes and then straddled the stunned Ken to slip him into her. It was a wild 10 minutes watching them and watching her get off! Sweaty and zoned out, she got off him and prompted me to take my seat. I did not hesitate and slipped his wet cock into my extremely wet and hot pussy. Unfortunately, I did not last as long as Gwen did and was off in no time.

But Ken did not cum yet. So after I stumbled to lie down on the other side of him, he got on top of Gwen to fuck her hard. It was wild and she was moaning aloud. Another ten minutes later, he turned to me and got on top of me to fuck me. I loved it and pulled him as deep into me as I could with each thrust. Finally, his sweaty body began to quiver and he pulled out his hard cock, to spray an amazing load all over my tits.

It was wild and in case you are wondering, there was no girl-girl action between Gwen and myself. We all cuddled up for about ten minutes, and quickly took turns to wash up. By the time we had all got cleaned and changed up, there was still no sign of Eleanor. We decided to call her again and she said she would not be able to make it after all and told us to go ahead and eat without her. We surely did - we ate her man alright.

We did meet again one more time (where he ate us both) before Gwen moved to Canada shortly after. Eleanor broke up with Ken sometime later and never knew what we had done. I wish I was still in touch with him because married or not, he was a great lay. Finally, I've got the chance to get it out!
Thanks Missus Singapore."

That was Yvonne's letter. Hope you enjoyed it. Until the next confession, Missus Singapore out!

LET'S DO MUTUAL

I read quite often how mutual masturbation is deemed as a useful way to build the intimacy between couples. If your sex lives have hit a wall, perhaps it can be helpful to jump-start it. Or if you are just off the mark with your sexual journey, I'll say fine.

To some extent, I agree. Well, for one, its safe. Secondly, its quite an experience to sit back a little and watch how a guy gets off by himself (not that I don't know!) and vice versa. Thirdly,...well there is no other reason for me.

These days, the thought of mutual masturbation translates as a wasted opportunity to get something hard where it matters. Maybe I'm just too impatient but really. A hard tool, strategic dampness and hormones all over the darn place - are you kidding me?

Some guys have expressed their desire wanting to watch me masturbate? Now again, that defeats the whole purpose of it, doesn't it. You masturbate when there's no other alternative and you want to do it in privacy, thank you very much. If a man wants to meet me just to watch me, well he can - for a fee and through a peep hole!

Missus Singapore out!

MOOD BOOSTERS

I always believe that sex is only worth having if its great. But in all honesty, it is hard work in today's context. You have to work at your techniques, loosen your mental restrictions and dampen the effects of societal or traditional taboos about a woman being proactive in bed. Of course that's not the do all and end all of a good sex workout.

Ultimately, other sensory stimuli help in the process of promoting a fulfilling romp in the sack. First that comes to mind is mood. Feel low and sex becomes a chore if it comes at all. Feel high and you are encouraged to push the limits of sexual adventurism and exploration.

So I've come up with this column - MOOD BOOSTERS - based on what my readers tell me helps to perk them up. It more often than not, ends the day with them feeling a little more receptive to sex. Well, look at it this way. If there is no sex on the cards, you still get them endorphins flowing through your mind and body - more than enough to lift the soul.

I've received lots of emails asking how to go about enjoying sex so I thought I'd share what others do to get in the mood. Just remember though, what works for one does not mean that it will necessarily work for another. But in today's stressful world, you have to admit that increasing your options is always a plus. Enjoy!

Missus Singapore out!

"I'm usually very passive at work. While I am comfortable that way, once in a while, when I really feel down, I just speak out. Speaking my mind is a wonderful self-esteem booster and it gets me all upbeat until I arrive at the office the next day. Sometimes, it's as little as making my opinions heard for anything - work related or a news article."
Helen Mallory
Peaklane, Ireland

THE BIKER'S GIFT

Three men, a doctor, a lawyer and a biker were sitting in a bar talking over a few drinks. After a sip of his martini, the doctor said, "You know, tomorrow is my anniversary. I bought my wife a diamond ring and a new Mercedes. I figure if she doesn't like the diamond ring, then at least she will like the Mercedes, and she will know that I love her."

After finishing his scotch, the lawyer said, "Well, on my last anniversary, I bought my wife a string of pearls and a trip to the Bahamas. I figured if she didn't like the pearls, then at least she would have enjoyed the trip, and she would have known that I loved her."

The Biker then took a big swig from his beer, and said, "Yeah, well for my anniversary, I got my old lady a t-shirt and a vibrator. I figured if she didn't like the t-shirt, then she could go fuck herself."

Missus Singapore out!

ERECTION CHART

This chart was sent in by one of my readers Louise, who is a single mother from Sydney. She admits to having several lovers to 'keep her motors running'.

With her busy schedule, she jokes that she has no time to waste with guys who just struggle to get a decent hard-on. So to make things easier, she intends to make use of this chart that she stumbled upon online.

I might just follow and use this myself seeing that hard-ons, I mean really throbbing, vein-popping ones are hard to come by these days.

Missus Singapore out!

MAKE LOVE TO THE POLE

These women are simply amazing. They are not only flexible and strong but are sure as hell sexy. I've always admired pole dancers but then again I admire all dancers - erotic and lap dancers included.

Unfortunately, pole dancing is something Missus Singapore has been warned against doing to preserve public safety. It's also not covered in my insurance policy the last I checked. Anyway, you wouldn't want to see me after. I'll be a tangled mess - pole and me.

Imaging what these women can do if men were the poles.

Missus Singapore out!