(Continued from yesterday)
My husband, who knows about my DIY indulgences, describes it as ‘keeping the motor in good shape’. But it’s also a mental thing. It keeps the mind primed for sex too.
With the absence of guilt, you really revel in the freedom to visit with your fantasies and desires. Best of all, it’s a harmless way to do so.
For me, masturbation also has a tendency to transcend into the bedroom. It’s like an appetiser for great sex. I guess for the voyeuristic ones, it could serve as a pre-sex show while for the reciprocating ones it could be a mutual undertaking.
I am certainly not proposing for every married person to get down to some serious DIY, but you ought to talk about it with your significant other. If you can communicate your needs and desires with to one another, masturbation shouldn't be a problem in a marriage.
That said, masturbation shouldn’t be replacing sex with your spouse. Now that could certainly have a negative impact on a marriage. And if you’re spending more money weekly on batteries for your sex toys than you do on groceries, have a need to do it in public places or even find yourself conversing with a toy by its given name, I do believe you may need to some serious counseling.
Missus Singapore out!