Is this indeed a trend? Well guys, if the women I spoke to (30 in all) are anything to go by, all I can say is this. While your virgin shepherd-girl muse is probably somewhere out there, don’t be surprised if you end up with a woman whose sexual history is as rich and tasty as yours.
While many women still fantasise about finding a man of their dreams to love, hold and cherish - their knight in shining armour so to speak, staying chaste during the wait is a different story altogether.
Granted casual sex is not something premarital sex advocates or anti-AIDS campaigners like to hear, but like it or not, it’s happening and happening a lot in an age where self fulfillment seems to come first above most things. And we’re no longer just talking about men here.
In truth, it’s really a natural instinct for a woman to want to explore her sexuality, and while there are various ways to do it, we cannot deny that raw sweaty sex is one route that is not less travelled.
Undoubtedly, sex in a loving relationship is a wonderful experience for a woman, or man for that matter. But nonetheless, for a fair number of women, like their male counterparts, if love is absent, the sex alone will do just fine, thank you very much.
The relationship mechanics has transformed significantly in recent times. Equality is the order of the day. But have women adopted a different sexual ideology?
I‘d be the first to admit that I’m glad it’s no longer considered unbecoming of a woman to jump her man when she’s feeling the need for a romp in the sack. In fact, the more out-of-the-sack I have it (i.e. sofa, dining table, car backseat) and the greater the element of spontaneity, the better.
I certainly join in the chorus of many women welcoming more equality in the bedroom and being able to express our sexuality without shame or guilt.
Sex was always something that women saw potential for enjoyment. However, in the past, society-at-large would carve a woman out as a ‘loose’ slut or whore if she so much as whispered how she wanted to be pleased – and this whilst in a marriage.
How things have changed.
“Being called a slut and whore in the heat of sex is something I really enjoy. Perhaps it’s a perverse side of me but it turns me on and I am driven to play the role. In fact, I feel it’s a compliment since I’m being compared with someone who is somewhat of an expert at it,” declares thirty-something bank executive, Lily Lin.
Landscape designer Siew Cheng, 28, notes the chasm that exists between sex and love in men and feels that it’s not something to be overly shocked at if a woman were to sing the same tune these days.
She shares, “I’m not ready to settle down, and playing the field is what I want to do at this point in my life. Women were too emotional about it in the past but many modern women like myself want to take sex to another level – a level of sexual satisfaction without commitment.”
A Canadian woman wrote to me and told me that her best friend actually has multiple orgasms. Well, I do have them several times a session but I have to admit, after that, I am close to unconsciousness. Nothing to consider multiple because the word itself suggest more than a few!
I am just wondering, if it really is the number of times or the intensity each time, because mine are certainly intense. The only time I have been overcome by something so intense was when I gave birth! Although that was frigging pain!
So intensity, my friend says is what matters because according to her friend, she cums over a few seconds and its gone as quickly as it emerged. For me its like a full 30 seconds and can be really draining.....
Bottom line - just make sure sex ends up with you cumming. Its your birth right as the fairer sex! If you say you fake it because the guy is bad in bed, ugly or you want to get him off your back....my question is why the hell is he in bed with you in the first place? I guess some women have their reasons....but the key to it is to be selfish and demand what is rightfully yours - the biggest orgasm ever! Nothing less.