THE VANILLA TO SPICE GIRL (Part 2)

(Continued from yesterday)

Self-declared ‘good girl’ Rahsiah G who recently became attached, discloses, “We may be fashionably comfortable and perhaps boring at times because we would rather stay home or watch a movie than go to the pubs. I suppose we are like vanilla ice-cream – bland in colour.

The 28-year old biotechnician cheekily adds, “However, vanilla ice-cream is still sweet to the buds. You can always put coloured sprinkles, whipped cream, cherries and chocolate sauce all over us and we become enticing too.”

Sales manager Ong Lay Hoon, 26, feels guys got it all wrong. She elaborates.
“They are mistaken to think we are boring in bed just because we don’t show off our legs or boobs. Outward appearances are deceiving. We may be inexperienced in bed but imagine the fun if they know how to bring us out of our shells. You can actually train us to be your sexual animals if you know how to.”

The message here is clear. There is a sexual animal in all of us. The key is to encourage a woman’s natural sexuality. Try to make her comfortable with sex in a subtle way and tell her how sexy she is or how her quiet demeanour turns you on.

The secret is she wants to be told how even in her simple ways, she can fulfil a man’s fantasies. Better still, with her limited sexual experience, she is unlikely to have many men to compare you to. Bottom line – you won’t be expected to perform miracles in bed.

At the end of the day, the kind of girl you want is really dependent to some extent on your personality too. If you are the jealous sort, I suppose bad girls are not for you.

On the other hand, if you want your space and occasional time-outs, the good girls will not be suitable because their tendency is to shower you with attention.

Ideally, the perfect girlfriend or wife would probably fall somewhere in between – the pleasantness and loyalty of the good and the sexual abandonment of the bad.

My advice is to start off with a good girl because it’s more likely you can turn her into a bad one. It’s very unlikely a bad girl is going to become good just for you.

Missus Singapore out!

THE VANILLA TO SPICE GIRL (Part 1)

The vanilla woman is an epitome of immaculate upbringing and high morality. But she is also often seen as a sexual dud. Men who know better insist that if you know the right buttons to push, she may turn out to be the hottest thing to rock your bed.

Good girls are boring, homebodies with no social life. They never stand out and are often seen wearing their hair neatly into a ponytail or bun. They wear little to no make-up and wouldn’t be caught dead in butt-tight jeans or mini-skirts, or a top that reveals more than the base of her neck.

These were just some of the observations several men on the street offered when asked to share their impressions of a good girl.

However, some men consciously pursue the good girl types. As one guy puts it, they can be groomed towards ‘a man’s unique sexual perversion’.

On another ‘less perverted’ view, 30-year old design engineer, Lionel Png says, “Since parties are not her thing and neither does she like to present herself in a sexually-tantalising manner, you won’t have to worry about having to beat other guys off with a stick. She's loyal and unlikely to cheat on you.”

(To be continued)

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MEDITATION VS SEX (Part 3)

(Continued from yesterday)

Research has shown over and over again but no one seems to be listening. Granted marriages need not survive with sex, it was found that marriages with sexual disorders and suffering a lack of physical intimacy in bed (NOT WALKING UNDER THE STARS HOLDING HANDS), suffered the most long-term effects. It may not show now but it will.

Come on people, it's not the actual penetration we are talking about, but the physical feel of your partner against you, the raw closeness and the comfort with seeing each other in a 'compromising' manner builds a marriage in ways many often brush aside. Which is why divorces are on the rise and the most common reason besides money, is dis-satisfaction in the marital bed, often leading to affairs.

I am all for meditation for the right reasons, reasons they are there for in the first place, to bring us back to a mental, physical and spiritual pureness as nature intended. It's like re-booting your computer when it hangs, but it doesn't mean you have to refrain from using it altogether.
One can go overboard with sex but as my friend has demonstrated, one can also go overboard with meditation. Moderation - that means meditate in moderation and make sure it does not kill the human instincts in you - i.e. your natural sexuality!

Missus Singapore out!

MEDITATION VS SEX (Part 2)

(Continued from yesterday)

Meditation should offer spiritual bliss and calmness of thought. It should recharge your senses in the spirit of returning our being into its original plateau - the most innate and instinctive form of being human which our hectic lives have blanketed over the centuries. Get it?? Recharge not kill the natural instincts and senses.

Sex is a natural instinct and to use anything, not just yoga, to refrain from it is not going to help things when you are in a sexual relationship. Unless medical conditions depict or if you intend to be a monk and lock yourself away from the world and its temptations, that's fine. In my opinion, it's really like sticking a spanner into the works, screwing up and killing our natural desires. It's like saying no more eating because you add weight to your body. Moderation is the key really, for anything and everything in life.

Let's put it this way, we all have sex in moderation, otherwise we will be humping the next person on the street. Even nymphomaniacs have off days too.

Meditation is so wrongly used by many who have been ill-advised. It's use in many cases as an excuse. Seriously, all the meditation in the world is not going to help if you have a deeply-seeded problem which needs you to face up to and fix. Yes, it may give you the inner strength to do so but hell, you still need to face it.

There is nothing wrong with desiring for sex, longing for it as long as you don't go hurting anyone in the process. There is always masturbation. Now what is wrong with that? Even doctors say it is healthy for body, mind and soul. Again moderation or you run the risk of wearing out your vibrator and getting into an argument with the sex store salesperson about the quality of their products.

But if one uses meditation to abstain from sex for fear of wanting to go astray, then something is really wrong with the sexual communication and intimacy between the partners. They need to work on it rather than find a meditation carpet to sweep it under.

Hey, if he travels, like my significant other does often, there is phone sex, which can be a most erotic experience. You get off, he gets off and it gets you primed for when you next meet up. Masturbation keeps your sexual engine oiled. Sex is really the gel to keep one aspect of marital communication seamless. To that same extent, meditation keeps your spiritual engine going.

(To be continued)

Missus Singapore out!

MEDITATION VS SEX (Part 1)

I was speaking to a girlfriend the other day. She has two young boys who keep her busy quite a bit. I've been there and kinda miss it...well maybe not so much, but spending time with the kids in their growing years was wonderful.

Anyway, she told me that she is into something new. Meditation. Well, we all meditate to some extent everyday - focusing on not getting pissed at some kids shouting and running about in the transit, or some imbecile who cuts into your lane without warning, the salesgirl who won't give you a refund for the dildo you bought after it broke.

But this meditation was different, I guess. She wanted to use it to abstain from sex - her reason was because her husband travels a lot and she didn't like that she was catching herself looking at other men in a wanting way during her husband's absence.

I know about meditation, having attended several getaways by renowned yogis and never has it ever been suggested that you should abstain from it. The idea was that moderation was the key, not abstinence. The balance - Yin and Yang principles. I mean it's really common sense. Sex is a natural instinct of all animals, and plants.

(To be continued)

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12 STAGES TO GOOD SEX #8

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YOU ASKED FOR IT

Be careful what you ask for! You might just get it.

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KITCHEN BUSINESS

Never discount the homemaker as boring anymore. Definitely so much to do and so little time. Thanks Allison, Malaysia.

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