Recently, by coincidence, quite a number of people have been talking to me and asking about swinging. Not the dance version but the wife-swapping or partner-swapping version.
In Singapore, it's really in its infancy and as such you will get a lot of young couples who seem to claim that they know it all but in truth, know nothing. Young professionals who want to experience it often join some of the swingers clubs around here. For one thing, don't expect them to be professionally run like say in France, Italy, Australia, the US and the UK. It's all a frenzy and with no organisation or any proper activities. They all just want to get a cheap lay.
Some young couples have approached me to join them but hey, they were still wet behind their ears when I was into it. Sadly, they are a rather educated lot, studying overseas mostly and coming back to claim how open they have become.
Caucasian expatriates who get involved also see this as a springboard to getting to screw more local gals, who seem to go gaga over them. To each his or her own.
But then there are those guys who pick up a hooker from somewhere, passing her off as his girlfriend just so as to get in on these parties. Pretty good deal - pay $150 for a hooker, get to screw four other gals!
More often than not, it ends up as an orgy, all too impersonal and all very messy. Hardly does anyone leave with a good feeling. I mean they don't feel bad or anything but they have not added anything or enhanced their lives in any way.
For the swingers who really do it right in the traditional sense of swinging, it's a very intimate way for couples who want to enhance their already strong relationship. Get it - 'already strong' - meaning, your realtionship has to be on a solid footing to be able to swing.
Yes, swinging requires an open mind, not from travelling around the globe but by understanding what it encompasses and knowing how it can affect your relationship and emotions.
Couples have threesomes and foursomes and that is technically not swinging. I guess different people have their different interpretations of it. Still, if you really want to swing or explore it, do it with people you can trust, people you feel comfortable with and not strangers who claim to know it all. Stay away from the swinger's groups here besides they attract too much attention for their own good. In the other countries, even though it is accepted and quite popular, no one goes out to talk or openly publicise it.
My advice - start your own intimate group if you like and keep it small. A threesome with a friend or someone you met, and move on gradually. So there you have it, my two cents worth on swinging here.
Missus Singapore out!