Just because sex is presently an important part of my life, it does not mean that it always will be. So I intend to, as long as mind, body and soul gets high on it, continue exploring it as part of life. So I screw a lot. But that doesn't mean I screw with loose screws in my head.
The one thing, and it's not a long list I am referring to, that I dread about sex is the fact how some people seem to be so careless about being safe. I admit when I was younger, I never did use protection. It was always the withdrawal method I employed but that can backfire. Of course that was a period when AIDS was not too much in the media.
However, these days, aside from AIDS, there is a whole gamut of STIs spreading about. A friend of mine picked up herpes from a guy she was seeing and although she is much better today, she was totally depressed by the whole episode. It has even killed her appetite for sex. Now to me, that's frightening.
Next to living my golden years immobile, I think not being able to enjoy the pleasures of sex is really frightening. Anyway, here is an ad which i found on the web, something really pertinent and it really hits the message home.
Enjoy sex but be sex-smart about it for heaven's sake.
Well, I only met her once and this woman claims to be a friend but sorry, no friend of mine knows me for four years and never bothers to once call. My friends are real and not virtual. My friends talk about their fucks and not talks about fucking but never lifts a leg to prove it.
She is the kind that flaunts her body at pubs and teases but when it comes down to the crunch, she backs out like in a flash. Even a male friend I met with her at our first meeting whispered in my ears that she is such a fucking tease. I did not think anything of it.
She claims to be the woman of the world, and is not leaving boring Singapore to somewhere in Chicago. Well perhaps Singapore has had enough of her too. She had the nerve to send out an email enmasse to announce her departure, like anyone cares...The last I heard, Chicago men hate teasers too! So goodbye and good riddance.
Strangely, i just feel a need to really get laid, one for the road, one for Shila, one to get her out of my fucking life....
Q. How does one rekindle the sex after not having it for nine years?
MS: You mean you are still alive after so long? Kudos! I am not sure I could survive nine days! Does this mean no masturbation too? Hard to say if you are married or not. Either way, i gather the technique is still there, the hardest part is getting in the mood. My best recipe for getting in the mood is talking about it.
Q. How do i dominate my husband?
MS: Men tend to talk too much sometimes and at the wrong time. The best way for me is to slap him around and sit on his face to keep him quiet. Oh and do dress up for the part.
Q. I think your website rocks!
MS: Had to put this one in although it is more of a compliment. Did not say if you're a guy or gal so I can reward you. Well actually, it doesn't really matter now does it. I have no gender bias. Oh and its a blog by the way.
So this one baffles me. What exactly constitutes a lipstick lesbian. I am told it describes gals who indulge in exchanging saliva every now and then. Ok, so they kiss. But does that act alone make them a lesbian? I have indulged in it a couple of times (well maybe more than a couple of times) but does that make me a lesbian as well? If I also kiss my husband does that mean anything? Maybe a lipstick bisexual would be more accurate.
Anyway, its something that seems rather common these days. Have seen it each time I am at a pub or club and think nothing of it. Usually these gals are tipsy so it doesn't really qualify because being as high as they are, they might not be able to tell the difference between a donkey's ass, let alone another gals lips. I make sure that I am sober when I do it...it is quite a tease really....watching the guys 'grow' down there is really empowering for us.
What is it about guys watching two girls kiss? Methinks, this is an unspoken tease for males - you know, to get them to long for us!
Well, well, well. No surprise here. You people like porn huh? I suppose there are classes to it which may cause a finer divide but generally, it sells. On hindsight, its better spending time watching it than inflicting harm on others. So listen up all you anti-porn, war mongering moralists out there!!! Conflict kills - porn thrills!
Interestingly, 15% of you actually wanna be porn stars huh. So what would qualify you then? Pray tell.
Several people have asked me don't I write about anything serious? In the first place, sex is serious. It is perhaps the most misunderstood topic around.
Besides, I write things that require serious thought, education, health, underprivileged issues and such. Why would I want to continue this here? This is meant as an outlet for my musings, thoughts that I am unable to get out in mainstream media. Nonetheless, I still think it is not chop-liver, sex that is.
Simple thoughts underlining serious issues. That is about it. So all you upstuck 'thinkers', go get screwed. If you need to pull your head out of your ass and have someone show you how, well maybe I'll will! Maybe not!
When I first came up with the Dare Deb Column, it was merely for fun. I thought I'd just try it out but I was overwhelmed with your questions. Gosh, some were wild.
Keep them coming and do understand that I may not be able to post all of them because there are some duplicate questions...quite a bit actually. So once again, from the bottom of my heart and my bottom, thanks.
For those of you who might not know it, my beloved homeland celebrates a very young 41st Birthday today.
It's a tiny red dot on the map on the tip of the South East Asian Peninsular which is open to much criticism from outside and within its borders, but for those of us who know better, this is Home and one we are fiercely proud of.
However, with birth rates at below replacement levels, in the true spirit of MissusSingapore, let's have more babies. But it all starts with more sex. New motto for the year - Screw In Singapore!
This friend informs me how recently her sex life has since last week, gone to the dogs. Well, it's not what you think and has not gone downhill. It's just that she (believe it or not) got down on all fours to be taken by her husband from behind.
Gosh! was what came to my mind first because she has been married for 9 years, has two kids and yet has not experienced the spice of a doggy treat from behind. But then to think about it, this is the same woman who has only last year (if i remember correctly) gave her first blow job.
Anyway, she was ecstatic about it and wonder of wonders, thanked me for getting her to try it. I don't remember telling her directly but she clarified that I actually encouraged her to open up and embrace the wonders of sex through my blog.... wow...did i do that?
For a moment, I thought I might have had one tequila too many and invited her over while my hubby was taking me doggy style so that she got a first hand view of what its like. Really, one tequila too many has that effect on me.
Anyway, all I can say now is welcome to the doggy world Gwen.